Relationships are rarely ever easy. In fact, for the most part, they can really be a big pain in the butt. But it’s always different whenever you are fortunate enough to be with someone who you truly love. They always make it seem like all of the difficulties and challenges are worth it. And that’s something that all of the best and strongest relationships recognize – the challenges are never going to go away. It’s just a matter of being with someone who you know you would be able to overcome all of the difficulties with.
The earliest stages of the relationship are always seen as the fun parts – the honeymoon period. Some people say that this is where couples get to really enjoy and have fun with one another because the problems and the reality of the situation won’t really sink in until later on. But what most people don’t realize is that you should always stay mindful of the way that you conduct yourself in your relationship even if it is still in the honeymoon stage.
Sure, it might feel like everything is still perfect in your relationship but that’s mostly just due to your rose-colored lenses. You’re just not seeing the ways in which the two of you might potentially be killing your relationship even if you’re just starting out. And that’s always a bad thing. You always want to be maintaining a sense of self-awareness in your relationship – especially in the early parts.
If you find yourself being guilty of the following things, then you might want to make a change in the way that you conduct yourself in early relationships.
1. You are too open and transparent.
Always make sure that you don’t give him too much information right away. For one, it’s going to be information overload on his part and he might get overwhelmed. And two, you take away the allure of mystery. Give him a reason to keep on chasing after you.
2. You play too hard to get.
But just because he loves the chase doesn’t mean that you should be playing hard to get. A man is always going to want to be with a woman who responds to his efforts and his advances. Don’t be acting like you’re uninterested in being with him.
3. You text him every chance you can get.
Yes, it can be very tempting to text him all day when things are just starting out. But you don’t want to be disregarding the other aspects of your life just so you can text him. Also, save some topics for when you actually converse with one another for real.
4. You try to control the whole situation.
Never try to be too controlling of the situation. There are very few things in the world that would make a man run away faster than having a woman try and control him to be a certain way.
5. You don’t take the time to see him.
You must always make it a point to carve time out from your schedule to see him. It can’t just always be him who makes the adjustments and the effort in the relationship. You have to show initiative and a willingness to adjust as well.
6. You shy away from defining the relationship.
Whenever he’s ready to define the relationship, you need to be able to have that talk with him. If you keep putting it off, then you risk losing him altogether.
7. You fail to respect boundaries.
This should be pretty self-explanatory. You always want to make sure that you stay respectful of him, his boundaries, and his dignity if you want to keep him in your life.
8. You get other people involved in your relationship.
You never want to be sharing what you have with other people right away. When things are fresh and new in the relationship, just keep it for yourselves. Keep things intimate. Only once you have built on that intimacy can you start gradually sharing it with others.
9. You take the positive gestures and traits for granted.
One thing that you would never want to do at any stage of your relationship takes your partner for granted. You always want to make sure that they know just how appreciative you can be for everything that they are and do.
10. You rush through the early stages of the relationship.
And of course, you never want to be rushing through the stages in your relationship. Love is a process. And it’s definitely going to take substantial time before love is actually built up to be something strong and real. You can’t have perfect love in just a matter of days.
Remember that when you’re just starting out, you are essentially setting up the foundations and pillars on which the two of you can build your relationship. That is why you don’t want to be guilty of committing any mistakes or bad habits so early on. You always want to be policing your own behavior if you want what is best for the relationship.