It may seem counterintuitive for relationships to have rules. We are always taught that love should always feel natural and that it should always come easily. We are always led to believe by all the romantic novels, movies, and other forms of media that love is like a fairytale. We are made to think that everything is always going to turn out okay in the end so as long as our love is real. But that is rarely ever the case. Love alone is never going to be enough to sustain a relationship. Love must always be worked at. One must always be relentless in fighting for a love to work.
Remember that if you are passive in your relationship, then you are essentially allowing your romance to flow downstream to its eventual demise. You must always be making an effort to paddle upstream. You must always be fighting the current and get yourself to safer waters.
Rid yourself of the notion that relationships are easy. They aren’t. And if you want everything to work out, you have to be able to play by the rules. You always have to make sure that you are doing your part in making the romance better. Here are a few essential relationship rules that you always have to follow.
1. Don’t be withholding on the nice comments.
Say the usual pleasantries to one another as often as you can. Remind your partner just how beautiful you find them. Remind your partner just how much you love them. Don’t withhold any of your nice comments about your love at all.
2. Stop being so liberal with your criticisms.
There is a place for some criticism in a relationship, but it shouldn’t necessarily be a regular thing. You don’t always have to be criticizing your partner about everything. That can often lead to resentment and hurt feelings. You don’t want that. Learn to pick your spots and choose your battles well. And whenever you do make criticisms, make sure that they are always the constructive kind. They should never be made with the intention to hurt or belittle.
3. Make sure you are always listening to one another.
Communication goes both ways. You are both actively expressing yourself and listening to whatever it is your partner wants to tell you. It can never be one-sided. You must always be making it a point to really hear each other out so that you can understand one another better.
4. Apologize whenever warranted.
Don’t hesitate to say sorry especially when you know that you are at fault. Also, when you know that you have done something wrong, don’t wait for your partner to demand an apology from you. It takes away from the value and meaning of your apology when you wait too long to give it.
5. Don’t take the little things for granted.
Always make sure that the little things still matter to you. Whenever you make little promises to your partner, make sure that you fulfill them. The little things matter because they are what make up the big things in the relationship.
6. Keep your emotions in check during heated arguments.
You are only human and so you are going to have your disagreements every once in a while. You are going to fight and argue. You might even be tempted to strangle each other to death at times. But it’s always important for the both of you to always keep your cool and manage your emotions.
7. Make it a point to spend quality time together.
Time is always important. A lot of couples will fall into the trap of not consciously making it a point to spend time with each other. That’s a big mistake. Remember that the amount of time that you invest into the relationship is correlated to the amount of success your relationship will have.
8. Respect the boundaries that you set for one another.
You must both still remember that you are still essentially two individuals who are choosing to share a life together. You should be willing to respect each other’s boundaries and individuality. If your partner asks for some space or privacy, you should be willing to respect that.
9. Have an active and healthy sex life.
Never underestimate the significance of having a happy and healthy sex life. Remember that sexual intimacy actually helps build strong emotional connections between the both of you. Make it a point to always have fun by mixing things up in the bedroom every once in a while. Keep things interesting.
10. Love one another.
Remember the foundation of everything that you have ever built together. At the base of it all, underneath all the flash and glamour, it should always be love. Whenever things get difficult, always go back to the reason why you got together in the first place: you love each other and you wouldn’t want to have it any other way.
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