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You could be the happiest person in the world even when you’re a single person, but still, you can’t help but shake that lingering feeling that you’re just missing out on something special because you’re not in a relationship. You go on a string of bad dates with terrible people, and you just grow tired of the game. But then fate decides to throw you a bone. You meet someone who you actually like; someone who is actually good for you. And then, as things progress, you eventually grow attached to one another and you get into a relationship.
It’s a liberating and an exciting feeling. It’s both nothing and everything that you could have possibly expected out of falling in love. And more than anything else, it’s a new experience that offers you valuable lessons that you need to learn for yourself as you go through life. Here are 10 lessons that you learn when you get into a relationship after being single for the longest time.
1. You realize that you don’t mind spending so much of your time with another person.
It used to be when you were single, you thought that your time was valuable. You never could imagine at the time just how you could ever grow to become willing to sacrifice the time you have in a day for another person. But when you get into a relationship, you discover just how easy it is to give up some things in your life for love.
2. You understand that just because you want to be with your partner as much as possible doesn’t mean that you’re clingy.
You used to believe that people who clung to their partners were downright pathetic. But when you get into a relationship, you now understand the novelty of the situation. Love can be addictive, and it’s understandable that you can’t get enough of it.
3. You grow to believe that sex is both important and insignificant at the same time.
You know the importance of having sex in a relationship and having sex in the right way too. But you also know that sex isn’t going to be as important in the relationship as other things are going to be.
4. You learn just how valuable having a good sense of humor in a relationship really is.
You are going to hit a fair share of speedbumps even early on in your relationship. And during these trying times, you will grow to understand that having and maintaining a good sense of humor in your romance can solve a lot of your worries.
5. You find that thinking about the future doesn’t always have to be a scary ordeal.
A lot of times, thinking about the future can be a stressful ordeal. The uncertainty can make us uneasy, anxious, and nervous. But you will grow to realize that when you share these anxieties with another person, they become a whole lot easier to bare.
6. You start to understand just why it takes two mature individuals to make a relationship work.
Throughout the stretch of your single life, you may have bee unfortunate enough to go out on dates with immature individuals and you may not have given much thought to it at the time. But now that you’re in a stable relationship, you now realize just why it’s so important for two people in a relationship to be mature.
7. You realize that you can’t and shouldn’t force yourselves to fast-forward through the various stages of a relationship.
A lot of people who get into relationships will make the mistake of actually speeding through the various phases of their romance. But when you do get into a relationship after being single for so long, you will want to savor every aspect of it. You won’t want to fast-forward anything.
8. You start to discover who your real friends are going to be.
Sad to say but when you get into a relationship with someone, you are going to have to cut some substantial time that you would have spent with friends. And when that happens, only your truest friends will understand your position, and they will still be there for you regardless.
9. You become okay with the idea of you actually needing your partner in your life.
When you were single and independent, you used to abhor the idea of needing another person in life. But now that you’re in a relationship, you don’t see neediness and dependence as something pathetic anymore. Just as long as you know your limits, you understand that it’s okay to grow to need another person.
10. You learn that if you’re with the right person, it doesn’t matter how long you stayed single.
And you used to dread the idea of having other people judge you for being single for so long. But now that you’re in a relationship, you know that your lack of substantial relationship experience isn’t as big an issue as you initially thought it would be.
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