People often mistake falling in love and loving someone to be the same thing. But it’s not. Sure, they might be two heads of the same coin, but definitely not the same. Here are some basic differences to clue you in about how falling in love and loving someone are separate things.
Being in love makes you WANT that person
Love makes us do crazy things including making us lustful. When you get the feeling the one you are in love with is so wonderful that you want to spend a lot of time with them or simply around them, that isn’t loving someone but being in love. You cherish the mere idea of that person and how they make you feel.
Loving someone makes you NEED that person
Being in love makes you believe you need someone to be happy. It becomes a part of your life. Your happiness depends on them. Their happiness is your happiness and needing them to a part of your life also implies you consider them worthy of getting the best of you.
Being in love with puts your emotions on the high
Ever get that euphoric kind of feeling just by thinking about the one you love? You never want to get rid of that feeling. It puts you in this calm place where you might forget what that person is actually life in reality other than your idea of them. No one wants to let go of that high, and that’s where the problem lies: you do let go of it, inevitably.
Loving causes fluctuations in your emotions
Thoughts matter more when it comes to loving someone. Thinking about them and being selfless towards them is what loving’s all about. The emotions that come with it are just the perks. After you fall in love with someone, you learn to love them and how to let go of that high of emotions, making it into something permanent. The in love’ feelings are what’s allowed in this stage.
Being in love makes you goal-oriented
You will know you love them when you that’s what makes falling in love as exciting as it is, longing for more. You not only have the need to be with them but also to know them more, build a greater and more serious relationship with them.
Being in love with someone makes you take things slow
When you are at that initial stage where you feel you want to take things slow, one at a time, with that special someone then it is not loving that person but just falling in love with them. Since it is the first step, you don’t really want to move towards a serious relationship or some such thing.
Those kinds of things, which require greater commitment, often scare people as they feel a need to progress. This stage isn’t only about understanding that what you have’s all you need, but wanting to strengthen that bond forever.
Being in love makes you care more about that person more than you actually do
Falling in love is much easier than staying in it, being in love that is. When you’re in love, those feelings make you feel like person is the greatest in the world, part of the whole infatuation process. Unfortunately, this way of thinking eventually wears off as soon as the feel-good chemicals do, leaving you lost and confused.
Loving someone means to care more about them than you think
It’s simpler to tell when you’re in love. It gives you a constant yearning. Loving, on the other hand, gives you no such constant reminders. When you truly love someone, moments of loss and separation might overwhelm you with feelings. People forget how much they love someone or how much they mean to them until life forces them to remember.
Being in love means you can easily fall out of it
People fall in and out of love every day, every minute of the day. It goes without saying that what goes up comes down. In terms of falling in love, what comes down climbs back up. If you can fall in love with a person then you can just as easily fall out of love. Being in love is practical just in our minds; we allow ourselves to fall in love by romanticizing the individual as well as being in a relationship with them. Reality doesn’t match with your version of it.
Loving someone never really stops
Loving who you love says a lot about you it defines who you are. Those we love never really leave us. Their presence in our lives coupled with everything they do for our sake leaves such a permanent mark on us that, because of them, we become different people altogether.
So when they leave, their marks on our lives still remain and that’s why when you love someone, you can’t stop loving that person for that would mean you stop loving a part of you yourself, a part which is influenced by the one you love.
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