Thinking of tying the knot?
You might not be as experienced in love and relationships as other people and you may have a difficult time navigating your way through this delicate emotional field. That’s okay. Everyone has to start somewhere. So don’t feel too bad if you get intimidated at the thought of someone being romantically interested in you. Commitment is a huge deal and it isn’t anything that anyone should be taking lightly or casually. Whenever you choose to make things official with another person, there are just plenty of things you need to think about before you actually make a decision.
The absolute worst case scenario is that you don’t think things through and you end up getting into a relationship that you’re going to regret in being. Remember that relationships require a lot of time, effort, and commitment in order for them to work. Before you choose to make things official with someone, you have to be able to decide if this person and potential relationship will be worth your time and attention. So how do you do that? How do you make sure that you are going to be making the right decision? What should be your thought process in this situation?
Well, there are some guide questions that you can follow to help you come to a decision. You have to make sure that you have all bases covered. You need to thoroughly think things through before you make your choice. Of course a lot of these questions are going to be difficult to think about, but relationships are never designed to be easy anyway. While you don’t want to take up too much time to the point of being indecisive, you also don’t want to be reckless and be rushing into things. So make sure that you don’t cut corners. Here are a few questions that you need to ask yourself before getting into a relationship:
1. Is he serious about his feelings for me?
You have to make sure if he’s really serious about getting in a relationship with you. A lot of men can have intentions and feelings that are less than noble. You have to make sure that he’s genuine about his feelings before you make any decisions.
2. Does he have a stable job?
If you are only interested in having a mature and long-lasting relationship with a person, you are going to want to have to take into consideration his job situation. If he isn’t doing so well with his career, then that could spell potential trouble for your relationship.
3. Does he have decent manners?
You should only ever date a gentleman who knows how to treat you right. It’s always a major deal breaker if he is a rude person who doesn’t know what it means to be kind and gentle.
4. Is he the type of guy my parents would approve of?
This is a question that you need to ask yourself especially if your parents mean a lot to you. You should try to see if their standards for your potential mate are being met with this guy. How comfortable would you be to bring him home to meet them?
5. Will my friends like him?
Like your parents, you can’t disregard the opinion of your friends. They should also have a say in helping you form your decision. You can never just ignore their perspectives.
6. Is he the kind of person I can trust?
Trust is a very important aspect of any relationship. Of course if you are interested in having a healthy relationship with a person, you have to be able to trust each other. When you can’t trust him even now, then it is highly unlikely that you will trust each other down the line.
7. Is he careful with his finances?
Maturity is an important aspect of relationships. You should only be in the business of dating mature men. If he isn’t mature enough to know how to handle his finances, then that’s something that you really have to take into consideration.
8. Do we have a good friendship going on?
At the base of it all, you should always have a solid friendship first. And if you do have a solid friendship going on, do you want to risk spoiling that friendship should things end up not working out in your romantic lives together? These are things that you are going to have to think about.
9. Does he make me feel comfortable with being myself when we’re together?
You never want to have to adjust the essence of your personality for a guy. If you will be dating someone, then you have to make sure he makes you feel comfortable with being yourself.
10. Is he the type of guy I can fall in love with?
Lastly, and most importantly, is there a potential for love there? If not, then there’s no point in getting official. But there is, then know that love is always going to be worth the risk.
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