10 Reasons Why He Might Be Good For Now But Terrible For Long Term
In the end, long term is what matters!
1. He’s too much of a thrill-seeker.
Sure. At first, it may be all fun and games. You are attracted to his spontaneity and his thirst for adventure. You think that you would never get bored whenever you’re with him. You love that he just has no fear and he always goes for whatever he wants. However, down the road, you are going to want to have some sense of stability and safety. Some risks just aren’t going to be worth taking. Some thrills just aren’t going to be worth exploring.
2. He’s a big flirt.
It’s the whole reason you fell for him in the first place. He knew what he was doing. He had his moves. He had his lines that he used to win your heart over. You bit and you bit hard. You loved that he was always flirting with you and he always knew what to say to make you feel giddy However, you should still be wary. You don’t want to have his flirtatious come back and bite you in the butt in the long run. Just make sure that you are the only subject of his flirtatious advances. Otherwise, things can end up getting really messy.
3. He’s a travel-junkie.
At first, you are fascinated by the fact that he travels a lot. He seems like he’s a very cultured man who has been well exposed to various kinds of peoples and perspectives. He has been to so many places and it shows in the way he conducts himself. However, eventually, you are just going to want to settle down. He might not want to keep his feet planted in one place for too long and that might make for a very difficult situation.
4. He’s a perfect example of overindulgence.
He has all the fancy toys and impressive clothes. He wears the finest watches and he goes to the most expensive bars. Money is never an issue for him early on. He just spends and spends on whatever he wants. This impresses you at first, but it might be detrimental in the long run. Of course you don’t want to be with someone who is overly thrifty. But you also don’t want to be with anyone who is too financially irresponsible. You always want some sense of fiscal security in a relationship.
5. He’s always casual and nonchalant.
You used to love that about him. He had a very passive aura about him. He didn’t try to control or manipulate anyone. He was always just very relaxed and casual in his ways. This was good at first, but eventually, you’re going to want to be with a person who actually takes things seriously. There’s a time to be serious and there’s a time to be casual. It has to be a healthy balance of both during appropriate situations.
6. He’s always looking for PDA.
At first, you found it really sweet. He was always looking to be intimate with you. He always wanted to physically manifest his love for you. But you don’t want that to be a staple aspect of your relationship. There are proper avenues for you guys to be intimate with one another. PDA doesn’t look good even when you’re young, and it’s going to look so much worse when you’re older.
7. He’s overconfident.
He was so sure of himself in the past and you also bought into it. You bought into his whole charade. He thought too highly of himself and you believed it. However, overconfidence can be very detrimental to a person’s lifestyle as one gets older. You can’t have him believing he can do things that he actually can’t. You need someone with a good sense of self-awareness in life.
8. He showers you with gifts.
That’s fine and dandy at first. Of course it is. Who would say no to nice gifts, right? But eventually, he has to stop relying on gifts to make you happy. Your relationship can’t be built on material items. Gifts are great, but relationships have to mean so much more than that.
9. He’s a bit of a know-it-all.
He’s intelligent. And so initially, you think that that’s a good trait about him. And for the most part, it actually is. You don’t want to be in a relationship with an airhead, right? However, his intelligence can get the best of him a lot of the time. You also want to make sure that you are in a relationship with a person and not a robot. Some sense of emotional intelligence is also important to have.
10. He’s parties hard.
He’s the life of the party. He makes all the people around him happy. He is a lot of fun to be with and he just goes to party non-stop. But at some point as you get older, you’re going to have to slow down. You don’t want to go binge-drinking every single weekend.
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