Being too choosy can be pretty damaging.

You’ve often been blamed by your friends for having too high standards and that’s why you remain to be single. But you just can’t help it. You don’t want to settle for just any relationship especially when you’re heart isn’t totally in it. And that’s always the right mindset to have and you should never change that. Sure, a lot of the people your age are off getting engaged and some may even be getting married and having kids already. But you’re still there, being a single person. But that’s fine. You shouldn’t have to feel bad about that. There are many things about your lifestyle that they are jealous of as well. And you shouldn’t feel pressured to get into a relationship just because everyone else is doing it. That shouldn’t be your motivation for getting into a relationship with a person. You should only fall in love when you’re really ready to do so and only when it’s with the right person. Otherwise, you’re only going to end up regretting getting into a relationship that you merely settled for just because you couldn’t find it in yourself to be patient.

But, because of your principled lifestyle and your convictions to never settle for anything that is beneath you, you are going to have to bear with quite a few struggles. But that’s okay. You have to know that you aren’t alone in your struggles and that many people also experience what you’re experiencing because of your convictions. You don’t have to feel so bad about having to bear these challenges because you share the burden with so many others who are like you. Here are some sad struggles that come with being a little too choosy while dating.

1. You constantly find yourself with nothing to do and no one to be with on a Friday night.

Your Friday night plans are composed of lounging around on the couch watching Netflix until you fall asleep. While this can be cool every once in a while, it can get really sad over time.

2. The idea of dating someone is always stressing you out.

Dates are hard for you because you’re constantly dating someone you’re not really comfortable with you. And so you always end up getting stressed at the thought of dating whereas it’s a lot easier for your friends to bear.

3. You are tired of having a series of unsuccessful first dates.

You hate having first dates with so many different people all the time. You just can’t wait for the days wherein you have succeeding dates with the same person for a long period of time. You are tired of having to bear with constant failed first dates.

4. You hate it when people tell you that you are being unreasonable.

People tell you that your standards are too high all the time and you hate that. You tell them that it isn’t any of their business because it’s your life and you’re the one who is going to have to bear the relationship, not them.

5. You are tired of having to explain to people why you’re still single.

People keep on asking you why you’re single and you are exhausted at having to explain your whole situation. You feel like a broken record having to tell people that you have high standards and that you don’t want to compromise.


6. You start building a bad rep for yourself because you’re too choosy.

People will start talking about you behind your back. And they might be assuming that there’s something wrong with your personality just because you can’t land a relationship for yourself, but the truth is that you just have really high standards.

7. You become more and more cynical with every failed attempt at a relationship.

With every failed attempt at having a relationship with someone, you grow more and more to believe that love maybe isn’t for you. You start to gradually believe that maybe you’re just not cut out for that romantic life after all.

8. You worry about the possibility of never finding someone to meet your standards.

You keep on questioning your standards and whether anyone is really going to be able to live up to them. You keep telling yourself that you don’t want to compromise but you’re worried you might end up alone.

9. You don’t have as active a sex life as you would typically want.

Of course, one of the major perks of being in a happy and healthy relationship is also the active sex life that you can have with your partner. And if you’re perpetually single without many options for intimacy, it can be difficult.

10. Your parents might be disappointed at the thought of never having grandchildren.

You want to tell your parents that you didn’t ask to be brought into this world anyway and that the task of providing them grandkids was never something that you wanted to take on for yourself.

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