Girls can be very complex and complicated beings. For the most part, you think you have them all figured out, but then in reality, you really have no idea about what’s going on. In one moment, you feel like things are going great and nothing could possibly go wrong; but in the next, you find yourself in a world of turmoil and coldness. There’s just no getting around it. It is always going to be difficult for boys to figure girls out. It’s just one of the many truths of human existence that have existed since the dawn of human civilization, and will persist in existence until the end of time.
There are numerous reasons that could explain why a girl you love could suddenly be acting so cold and mean towards you. Your job is to try to exhaust all possibilities, and pick out the most likely one. A lot of times, girls won’t tell you why they’re mad at you, and you have to figure it out on your own.
1. She has a suspicion that you’re just fooling around.
She questions your intentions with her and she doesn’t want to play the fool in your relationship. She may love you, but she loves herself more and she would never allow herself to be the subject of ridicule. If she suspects you of just playing around with her feelings, then she’s going to try to distance herself from you for the mean time until she’s sure that you’re not just fooling around.
2. She doesn’t think that you’re genuinely interested.
If she has doubts about whether or not you’re interested in her, she won’t be acting so warmly around you. If she doesn’t think that you have a legitimate chance of making a relationship work, then you can expect her to not be so receptive of you. If you want to remedy the situation, you can try to drop hints about your interest in her, and see if that works out in your favor.
3. She’s not sure of how she feels about you.
Sometimes, even though she really loves you, she’s not entirely sure of it. Girls always like to be sure of their feelings before they act on them. That’s why she can seem cold and distant to you, but it’s not entirely your fault. Maybe she’s just in the process of trying to figure herself out more. Just be patient and wait for her to get things straight in her head.
4. She’s testing to see if you’ll miss her.
It’s the old strategy from the female gender’s playbook. They try to play hard-to-get and test whether you’re going to make the effort to go after her. She only does this because she wants to make sure that you’re going to actually put in the work in trying to win her affections. She wants to know how you are going to react when she stops acting so warm and kind to you.
5. She’s trying to protect herself from hurt.
A lot of girls like to be very guarded especially when it comes to feelings and emotions. They don’t like to open themselves up to emotional vulnerability and so they will tend to retreat into their protective shells of solitude. By welcoming you into her life, she’s giving you the power to hurt her, and she has to make sure that you are never going to do that.
6. She has a history of getting hurt by men.
If she has had a traumatic experience with a man before, then that’s a perfectly reasonable explanation for her to act coldly to you now. She knows the pain of heartbreak and she doesn’t want to be susceptible to such pain again. If she distances herself from you, it’s only because she doesn’t want to put herself in the position to get hurt once again. It’s not entirely your fault. She only needs some time to recover from her old wounds.
7. She is still in the process of moving on from a previous relationship.
Sometimes, even if a girl falls in love with you, she just isn’t ready to act on that love because she still hasn’t gotten over a previous relationship. You can consider this a blessing in disguise because it can get very difficult to date a girl with intense emotional baggage.
Girls know that guys like their freedom and they never want to feel like they’re suffocating in a relationship. That’s why they will try to distance themselves from you and give you the space to breathe on your own. If you truly want to be in a girl’s life, then perhaps you should be honest about your feelings and intentions so she knows where you stand.
9. She doesn’t want to get caught in the friend zone.
The friend zone is a terrible place that no one ever wants to get caught in. if she distances herself from you, she’s protecting herself from falling deep down into the well of friendship where there is only pain and despair.
10. There’s a third-party that’s catching her attention.
The most dreaded reason that she’s no longer expressing interest in you is because she is probably interested in someone else. It’s a sad reality, when this happens to you, you must learn to either win her over or move on.
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