There is no such thing as a perfect person, but there is such a thing as an ideal person to marry.
Marriage is a big deal. It’s a big commitment that you’re making. With the establishment of the marital institution, you are essentially tying yourself down to one person for the rest of your life. You are choosing to commit yourself to the ideas of constant love, loyalty, trust, and respect for a single individual.
This is a person you are going to have to be a partner to for as long as you are going to live. The vows that you make during a marriage ceremony are definitely not little things that you can choose to disregard whenever you please.
That’s why it make take a lot of people more time than others to decide on marriage. They want to be sure of whatever it is they are committing themselves to. They don’t want to realize that they’ve somehow married themselves into a mistake that they’re going to end up regretting for the rest of their lives. It’s always a good idea to get to know someone to the fullest so that there will be no surprises once the marriage is settled.
While there is no surefire way of ensuring the success of a marriage, there are some little tricks of the trade that could help you out. A lot of marriages are going to be flawed because the people involved in them are also flawed. There is no such thing as a perfect person, but there is such a thing as an ideal person to marry.
There are some people who possess personality traits that would come in handy when it comes to long-term marriage. You just have to keep an eye out for these traits for you to improve your chances of finding a suitable mate to be with for the rest of your life. These traits include individual strength, ambition, respect, kindness, open-mindedness, and more.
On the other hand, there are also some women that you should absolutely stay away from. They will bring destruction to any relationship because of the nature of their personalities. They will make themselves miserable with their pessimistic tendencies, and they will drive their partners crazy by extension. If you happen to encounter a girl who possesses these red flags, perhaps it would be best for you to wait things out before you consider to tie the knot with her.
1. She always looks for the worst in things and in people.
She always sees the glass half full. Even though it’s a perfectly beautiful day outside, she will find a reason to not appreciate the wonders of the environment. Even if the food that you prepared her tastes really well, she will say that there’s too much salt.
2. She doesn’t share the same sexual preferences as you.
Sexual chemistry is very important in any relationship. While both of you should be willing to explore each other’s bodies in a healthy manner, there are limits. You have to strike a balance and harmony in bed. If you can’t, then that’s not good for marriage.
3. She is more obsessed with the idea of having kids than she is with being with you.
Marriage is a partnership, and so is the act of parenting. If she’s only treating you as someone who can impregnate her and give her the kids she’s always wanted, then that’s definitely a red flag. She has to see you as more than a pregnancy tool.
4. She doesn’t feel like she can rely on you.
You should be with a woman who isn’t afraid to ask you for favors. It shows that she trusts you and that she believes in your capacities to be of service to her whenever she needs you.
5. She has a poor sense of humor.
A good sense of humor can go a long way in any relationship. Gradually, your physical attraction for each other will fade. However, a good sense of humor that gets better with time will still be a good source of attraction between the two of you.
6. She doesn’t have the potential to be a good parent.
If you feel like she isn’t responsible enough to be a parent yet, then you should hold off on popping the question. You have to consider the possibility of having kids in the future, and your future kids deserve a great mother
7. She is too demanding of your time and attention.
She has no respect for your own personal time and space. She is always demanding that you are available to her 24/7 and that you shouldn’t be selfish with your time. But in fact, it’s her that’s being selfish.
8. She has an addiction problem.
Addiction problems are signs of severe mental health issues. That’s why if your girl happens to be addicted to things like drugs, alcohol, or gambling, you should really consider finding help for her. These addictions could end up crippling your marriage.
9. She doesn’t feel like she can trust you.
Trust is the bedrock of any relationship. If you feel like she’s still uncomfortable with really opening herself up to you, then she isn’t ready for the harsh realities of marriage.
10. She isn’t your closest friend.
More than anything, your wife is your best friend. If she isn’t, then that means you’ve merely chosen to settle for someone less than ideal.
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