It’s always a very exciting time whenever you are falling in love for the first time with someone. It’s great. It’s such a vulnerable and thrilling experience. There really isn’t any other sensation that is quite like it. You allow yourself to just get lost in your feelings because you know that that’s part of really falling in love with someone. But you also have to be doing your part in ensuring that you don’t get hurt. You have to make sure that you are protecting yourself.
Yes, falling in love can be exciting, but you can’t do so recklessly. You have to make sure that you don’t let yourself get too attached to someone way too quickly. You have to allow yourselves the time that it takes to really get to know one another. Otherwise, you might be latching yourself onto a wagon that might eventually hurt you – and that happens way too often. As tempting as it can be to just let your feelings take over, you can’t allow that to happen. You can’t allow love to deprive you of better judgment. You can’t let love impair your ability to read people.
You can’t let your feelings blind you from all of the red flags that you should really be paying attention to. Keep in mind that even though love is grand, it can also betray you if you’re not careful. And there isn’t any kind of betrayal that hurts more than one that comes out of love. So, when you’re just getting to know someone who you feel like you are falling for, don’t rush things. Be patient. Get to know one another on a very intimate and personal level. Make sure that you are both taking things slowly; that neither of you are pressuring the other to take things to the next level if neither of you are ready.
You don’t want to end up getting blindsided by someone who turns out to have a crappy personality after all. You don’t want that kind of disappointment and betrayal on your plate. To help you be a better judge of character, you need to know how to read the signs better. If you find that a lot of the things that are listed on here happen to apply to your partner, then it’s highly likely that he has bad intentions for you; so you have to be extra careful when dealing with him.
1. He tells you that he’s a nice guy.
Take this as a general rule of thumb: any guy who has to tell you that he’s a nice guy is not a nice guy. Nice guys don’t have to convince others that they’re nice.
2. He doesn’t really have a solid group of friends.
If he doesn’t have a solid group of friends around him, then he’s probably not a stand-up guy. You can tell a lot about a person by the company they keep. And if people don’t like being around him, then he’s bad news.
3. He is always vague whenever he opens up to you.
You never feel like you get a sense of who he really is because he’s always vague whenever he talks to you about personal stuff. He is always ambiguous when he talks about his life and his plans for your relationship.
4. He acts really needy.
He wants to spend ALL of his time with you; and he wants you to spend ALL of your time with him. He is too clingy; and that might be a sign of dependence.
5. He makes all conversations sexual.
If he’s inserting innuendo in everything that you talk about, then it’s highly likely that all he ever really wants out of a relationship with you is sexual pleasure.
6. He pressures you into really committing to him.
He shouldn’t be pressuring you into doing ANYTHING with him; especially not committing to him. He should let you make that decision on your own time. He shouldn’t be rushing you into anything. It’s sketchy if he’s trying to speed the process up.
7. He has poor manners.
If he has poor manners when he’s first meeting you, he’s probably going to treat you poorly down the line as well.
8. He lies to you.
Of course, you are never going to be able to trust a man who lies to you. And if he lies to you so early in your relationship, then what’s going to stop him from lying to you down the line too?
9. He doesn’t really take you out.
He doesn’t put effort into planning your dates. He just wants to hang out with you at home all of the time; possibly so you can just have sex.
10. Your instincts are telling you that something is off.
Learn to really trust your instincts. Your subconscious is always going to be looking out for you. You really need to listen to your gut. Sometimes, your instincts can act as your best defense against those who are trying to harm you.
