Marriage is no small undertaking. It’s very serious – and you need to be taking it seriously. At the end of the day, a lot of us are going to want to find a special someone with whom we can spend the rest of our lives with. Marriage is a social institution that has been around for the longest time now. And we’ve seen so many couples try their hand at marriage only to have their relationships crumbling down into ashes. And you never want that for yourself. When you commit to something as serious as marriage, you must always make sure that you don’t take that commitment lightly. You always need to ensure that you are putting your best foot forward and that your mind is clean when coming to a decision.
Truth be told, there are just far too many failed marriages that could have been avoided with a little more tact and care at the onset of a relationship. There are so many couples who are inherently incompatible and they should never be getting married in the first place. There are also certain individuals who might be great in relationships but aren’t necessarily ready for tying the knot yet. And it’s very tricky when trying to spot these individuals as well.
If you’re in a position where you really have to think about the direction of your relationship and the future that you have with your girl, then make sure that you have all bases covered. If your girl is exhibiting a lot of the items that are listed on here, then maybe she just isn’t ready for marriage yet – or perhaps she isn’t the girl for you after all.
1. She often lets her feelings lead her into making the wrong decisions in life.
She is still a very emotional creature – to a fault. She lets herself make bad decisions about life because she gets overwhelmed by her feelings. And that’s not the kind of temperament that can be considered to be marriage-material.
2. She still doesn’t know how to read your feelings and emotions.
Maybe it’s an incompatibility issue between the two of you or perhaps she’s just plainly insensitive in general. Either way, it’s not a good sign that your wife-to-be can’t get a good grasp of how you feel or what you think.
3. She doesn’t feel the urgency to grow and develop as an individual.
She thinks that it’s just okay to coast the way that she does. She doesn’t really care about improving herself or working on her flaws. To her, staying the same is a fine way to go about life.
4. She doesn’t have any real goals for herself.
If she doesn’t have any real ambitions or direction in life, it means that she doesn’t really see a future for herself. And you can try to help her gain some direction for herself; but at the end of the day, this is something that she has to accomplish on her own volition.
5. She has very poor money management skills.
It’s no secret that a lot of marriages end up crumbling to the floor because of financial issues. And if your girl just doesn’t have the acumen to manage her finances well, then perhaps you should reconsider marrying her for the moment.
6. She still acts jealous in the relationship even when there’s no reason to be.
She has some serious insecurities that make her unfit to be a healthy wife in a marriage. And you really need to address those insecurities before you consider tying the knot with her.
7. She doesn’t really put a lot of effort into trying to make the relationship work.
She isn’t as invested in the relationship as you. And that’s a big no-no when it comes to marriage. In order to preserve the longevity of a relationship, it takes the efforts of two invested individuals in a relationship. One person alone will be incapable of carrying the marriage.
8. She is always concerned about her own needs but never about yours.
She is selfish – and while there is room for selfishness in marriages, it should never precede selflessness. In a marriage, you should always be just as concerned about the needs and expectations of your partner as you are about your own. You can’t be so selfish and conceited if you want to make a marriage work.
9. She brings out the absolute worst in you.
Why would you ever want to attach yourself to a person who brings out the worst in you? If you make a commitment to a person who makes you a worse person than you’re supposed to be, then that’s always a bad idea.
10. Your instincts are telling you that something is just off.
You just have to really learn how to listen to your gut and your intuition. If your instincts are telling you that something is off, then it’s probably because something really is wrong; and you’re just being blind to it. Listen to what your subconscious is trying to tell you about your love life.