If only there was a way for you to stop a tragedy before it happens, right? Well, the good news is that there is a way you can do so with regards to your relationships. Love is always tough because it’s essentially a risk that you’re taking with another human being. You are never assured of a favorable outcome. But you still try to take your chances anyway just because you know that love is always going to be worth that risk. However, with risk can come potential heartbreak. And heartbreak is always going to be tragic. You meet someone, and you fall in love with them. You get attached to one another – and somewhere along the line, you drift apart.
Things aren’t going so well anymore and the both of you know that you aren’t going to be able to go on like this. You both need to walk away from all of the toxicity in your relationship. And that means that you’re going to have to break up. Then you have to go through the tough process of having to move on and getting over your breakup. And if you’ve been there once before, then you know how that experience isn’t necessarily a walk in the park. Breakups are never easy to deal with, but you always try to make the most out of what you have. And that’s part of the deal when it comes to taking a chance on falling in love with someone.
But what if there was a way for you to take a chance and still get out early so that you don’t have to endure the whole process of detaching yourself from someone? The truth is that for a lot of relationships, you are going to be able to tell that things aren’t going to last fairly early on. And when you are able to do that, you are better able to protect yourself from impending pain and disappointment when the relationship doesn’t work out. You are able to exclude yourself from the relationship even before you begin to get attached to it.
But how exactly do you do that? Well, there are a few signs that you can be on the lookout for. When you notice these signs early on in your romance, then it’s highly likely that things aren’t going to end well. So you might as well just call it quits right then and there.
1. Your friends and family tell you that this isn’t a good idea.
You shouldn’t totally be living your life based on what other people tell you. But it would be foolish for you to be ignoring the advice from the people who love you the most. You might be blinding yourself from the truth.
2. You find yourself questioning whether you should go through with it or not.
If you’re hesitant, then that’s because there’s something wrong. That’s a red flag. Your instincts are telling you to hold back because pushing through is a bad idea.
3. You don’t really know much about this guy because he doesn’t open up.
Granted, he’s going to have to open up to you if he wants you to get closer. If not, then it’s probably because he has something to hide.
4. You only like him because he presents a challenge to you.
You should never go after someone just because you treat it as some kind of challenge. Love isn’t a game that you try to win. You can opt for puzzles or video games if you want a challenge; not love.
5. He has a history of cheating on his past girlfriends.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Yes, all men can change. But what are the chances that he’s going to change for you in particular?
6. He lies to you even early on in the relationship.
Lying is always a big no-no in any kind of relationship. And if he’s lying to you even if you’re only just starting to go out as a couple, then leave him. He’s not really worth taking a chance on. He might end up just lying to you and manipulating you all of the time.
7. You never feel safe whenever you’re around him.
It’s your gut telling you that you’re in a place of danger; that he isn’t going to treat you right.
8. He has narcissistic tendencies.
Never date a narcissist. It’s virtually impossible for anyone to sustain a relationship with a narcissistic man who only cares about himself.
9. You put too much pressure on the relationship to make you happy.
You can’t let your relationship be your only source of happiness. That is a very unhealthy way to go about being in a relationship with someone.
10. You still have some emotional baggage from past relationships.
You are never going to be able to make new relationships work if you are still carrying ill feelings and emotional baggage from your previous romances. You need to get over a past love to start fresh with a new one.