Don’t settle. Never settle.
What does it mean to actually deserve a kind of love or relationship that you’re in? Well, it means that you’ve done enough for your partner and relationship to actually earn a certain standard of treatment.
In a relationship, you always want to make sure that there is a certain balance there. You always want to have a relationship where the dynamics are in pure harmony. You don’t want to be stuck in a romance where you’re giving all that you’ve got and you’re getting nothing in return and vice versa. Any emotional imbalances can really be a source for some major dysfunction in a relationship especially when left unaddressed for a prolonged period of time. A lot of these imbalances and dysfunctional aspects of a relationship can really be solved with thoughtfulness, communication, and mutual respect.
But alas, if you’ve really tried your best to make things work and you’re still not getting what you need from the relationship, then maybe you need to reevaluate the relationship as a whole. You should never have to settle for being in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy. You should never have to settle for a love that leaves you feeling unfulfilled and disappointed. If you deserve better, then demand more from your partner. And if they can’t give you what you deserve, then maybe you should just move on to someone better.
But how do you know for sure that you’re not just being bratty? You don’t want to leave a relationship just because your standards are too high. Well, here are some signs that you just definitely deserve better in a relationship, and that you’re just settling for the one that you’re in:
1. Your partner refuses to engage in healthy communication with you.
Never settle for a partner who doesn’t want to communicate with you. Communication is always going to be important in maintaining relationships especially romantic ones. And if he refuses to engage, then you’re never going to be able to make things work.
2. Your partner fails to make you feel valued and appreciated.
You should always never have to try so hard to feel valued and appreciated in your relationship. Your partner should make it a point to show gratitude and validate your efforts.
3. Your partner fails to take the initiative in establishing intimacy.
Intimacy is always something that is shared between two people. It can’t be a one-person operation or effort. And you definitely deserve a partner who is willing to meet you halfway in this regard. You can’t be the only one in the relationship who actually tries to establish intimate connections.
4. Your partner doesn’t make you feel welcome in their individual life.
When you get into a relationship with someone, you are essentially merging your lives together. But if your partner continually makes you feel unwelcome in their life, then that’s not a good sign at all. You deserve to be with someone who willingly opens up to you and lets you into their world.
5. Your partner refuses to be responsible for anything in the relationship.
You deserve to be with a mature adult who actually takes ownership and assumes responsibility of their actions in a relationship. If your partner refuses to be accountable to anything, then you’re practically dating a toddler.
6. Your partner doesn’t respect your time.
Your partner constantly makes you wait. They don’t value your sense of time. They don’t care about making you feel restless and impatient. They are selfish and they only think of themselves.
7. Your partner fuels your insecurities.
A real loving relationship shouldn’t be one that makes you feel insecure about who you are. In fact, it should be the total opposite. A real relationship should help in making you feel better about yourself. But unfortunately, your partner only makes you feel even more insecure.
8. Your partner doesn’t make the effort to plan things for the both of you.
Your partner just doesn’t really care about whatever direction your relationship might be taking. That’s why they only leave the planning and preparation up to you. Perhaps the truth is that they just aren’t as invested in the future of the relationship as you hope they should be.
9. Your partner is secretive and dishonest about many things.
You deserve the truth in a relationship always and in all ways. No matter how harsh or inconvenient it might be, you deserve to be with someone who respects you enough to not feed you lies. You need a partner who knows that you deserve to be told the truth.
10. Your partner is emotionally cold and distant.
It seems like your partner just isn’t as invested in the relationship as you. And it takes two committed adults to make a relationship work. Without your partner, you practically have nothing.
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