There are so many people who are old enough to be in relationships, but aren’t necessarily mature enough to make a relationship work.
Strangely enough, maturity is a rare thing to find in adults nowadays. People have to understand that maturity doesn’t necessarily come with age. Maturity comes to people with experience and proper reflection. Some so many people are old enough to be in relationships but aren’t necessarily mature enough to make a relationship work.
That’s why it is a big mistake for you to associate age with maturity. There are plenty of things that young men out there do that carry much wisdom and maturity for their age. On the other side of the spectrum, there are also lots of older men who are naturally immature. Be wary of immature men because you would never want to be in a relationship with them. They will only bring lots of baggage, trauma, and unnecessary stress.
Here are a few things that immature men do in relationships:
1. He puts his friends before his girlfriend.
A genuinely mature man would never prioritize his friends over his girlfriend. Of course, he wouldn’t necessarily give up his friends in favor of his girlfriend, but he would make it a point to prioritize her needs above anything else. When given a choice between a date night with the lady and a night out drinking with the buddies, he would choose her more often than not.
2. He sweeps his problems under the rug or waits for others to solve them for him.
Honestly, mature men would not flinch when problems are thrown their way. They face their problems ahead on, and they never succumb to pressure. They never sweep their problems under the rug, nor will they pass their problems to other people. They deal with their problems like a man, and they would never fall victim to the fear of failure.
3. He shrinks whenever he is made responsible for something.
The most mature men always rise to the occasion whenever the situation demands it. They have no problem stepping up to save the day. They don’t shrink when the limelight is set on them. They are calm under pressure and have no problems carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders.
4. He uses physical force on a woman.
A mature man would never, under any circumstance, use physical force to harm a woman. He would never physically abuse a woman for any reason in the world. Many immature men will use their physical dominance to subdue women and make them bend to their will. Mature men always respect women and will not hesitate to defend women who can’t fend for themselves.
5. He lives life impulsively and doesn’t have an eye for the future.
A mature man doesn’t just live for the moment. He always has an eye for the future and always thinks long-term. He is very calculated in his actions and always thinks hard before moving. He tries to weigh the pros and cons of his movements, and he always wants to ensure that he only does things that will not end up betraying his future.
6. He doesn’t give his woman the appreciation she deserves.
A mature man would not hesitate to tell his woman how much he cares about her. He would always make her feel valued and appreciated in the relationship. He would express his gratitude for her any chance he could get. He would never want her second-guessing her worth in the world.
7. He holds grudges against his girlfriend.
A mature man carries no grudges against people. If he argues with his girlfriend, he will try his best to come to a resolution or compromise. He would never carry around petty grudges in the relationship. A mature man wants nothing to do with any drama.
8. He doesn’t feel the need to ever apologize for anything.
An immature man thinks too highly of himself, and he feels like he is above apologies. He thinks he could do no wrong and so apologies are always unnecessary. However, a mature man recognizes his faults and his weaknesses. He is secure enough to acknowledge his imperfections and isn’t afraid to apologize for his shortcomings. He does not shy away from his faults; instead, he treats them as learning experiences for the future.
9. He gets jealous of his girl’s male friends or colleagues.
An immature man would want to isolate his girl from the rest of the world. He isn’t secure enough in the relationship to trust his girl to interact with other men. A mature man acknowledges that his girl has a life outside of the relationship, and he trusts her to make the right decisions in life.
10. He plays around with other girls behind his girlfriend’s back.
Loyalty and monogamy are rare finds these days. That’s why you only find these values in mature men. The immature men are the ones who always feel like they need to play the field. Mature men are the ones who are content with loving just one girl.
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