But how do you know that you and your man are destined for marriage?
Marriage is a big deal and anyone who takes it lightly going into it would be making a huge mistake. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that you really need to put a lot of thought into trying to figure out who you’re going to marry. When two people meet and become interested in one another, they have to date and see if there’s a real connection there that’s actually worth exploring. And if they see that there’s some serious potential for the relationship to progress, they keep with it. They persist in the hopes that things really work out for them in the long run. So if you just happen to be someone who has been in a relationship for quite a while and you feel like it’s time for you and your man to take things to the next level, you really have to be careful.
You don’t want to be doing anything hastily. You don’t want to be rushing into anything. But how do you know that you and your man are destined for marriage? It’s not as simple as people saying that you would just know because that’s very vague. Marriage readiness can mean so many different things to so many different people. There is no one ultimate prototype for the ideal husband. There is no one size fits all kind of man who just happens to meet every woman’s needs. However, there are some clues some red flags that may indicate that a man just isn’t cut out for marriage just yet.
You have to make sure that your man is prepared for the responsibility that comes with getting married. Because even though you might be ready for marriage, things are never going to work out unless both of you are willing to put in the effort. So you have to make sure that the both of you are actually ready to jump into this next phase of your relationship together. Otherwise, it would be better for you to just hold off for a little while. Here are 10 things about him that tell you he’s not exactly marriage material.
1. He expects you to chase after him all of the time.
He always wants to be in a position of power. He never wants you to see him as weak or vulnerable. He would never want you to feel like he relies or depends on you and that’s why he would prefer that you be the chaser in the relationship.
2. He relies on you to support him financially.
He is the kind of guy who would just crumble into ashes if you just stopped being together. He is a weak and fragile individual who doesn’t like to work hard. And so he relies on you to support him on a financial level.
3. He never feels like it’s his responsibility to inform you of his plans.
Even though you’re in a relationship together, he never considers it important to share his life with you. He only wants you to be there when it’s convenient, but he doesn’t respect you enough to update you on what his plans are.
4. He brings out your deepest insecurities.
He always forces you to doubt yourself. He doesn’t want you to think that you are a great individual because he is too afraid that you might realize that you are actually too good to be settling for a guy like him.
5. He doesn’t give you the loyalty or commitment that you need from him.
He would cheat on you and you know it. He doesn’t really give you the kind of emotional security that you need in the relationship. He can never make you feel like he’s going to respect your wishes for a monogamous romance.
6. He isn’t content with you just being yourself.
He is constantly trying to change you. He is always pushing you to become a person you’re not really comfortable with being just because he thinks he can do so.
7. He expects you to handle all of the household chores.
He always wants you to pick up after him because he isn’t mature enough to actually look after himself. He sees himself as someone who is above household chores and he treats you like his own personal maid.
8. He doesn’t like to resolve arguments with you.
He is too immature to be able to have constructive arguments with you. Rather than have a decent conversation with you, he would rather run away and not confront you about your differences.
9. He feels threatened whenever you get to taste success.
Instead of supporting you and being happy for you with your success, he just gets jealous instead. He sees you as a threat to his ego because he always wants to be the center of attention.
10. He gives you ultimatums.
He pressures and manipulates you into doing things for him and he uses the relationship as a bargaining chip. No man who threatens to leave you should ever deserve to be your husband.
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