Every couple NEEDS to do this before getting engaged!
It probably goes without saying that engagements are huge steps for couples in relationships to be taking. It’s the final step before the long haul of marriage. It is a very important decision that no couples should ever be taking lightly. For a lot of people, it can take plenty of years before they are ready to get engaged. For some couples, it doesn’t take as long as others. But even when couples do happen to get engaged, it’s not always going to be a sure thing. Plenty of couples break off their engagements even prior to getting married. And worse, a lot of couples will go through their marriages only to end up getting divorced in the end.
While there is no conceivable way for people to really know whether a relationship is going to go all the way, that doesn’t mean people should just be complacent. If you feel like you and your partner have potential to go all the way, then by all means, you should pursue your relationship with all your heart. However, you must also make sure that you don’t rush through the necessary stages of the relationship before you make your binding commitments to one another.
To get a better idea if you’re really ready to be engaged to your partner right now, you can read on through until the end of this article. If a lot of the items on this list apply to your relationship, then maybe getting engaged isn’t such a bad idea. But if you can’t relate to a lot of the things listen on here, perhaps you should be a little more patient for now.
1. Try living together.
A lot of traditional couples will hold off living with each other until they are actually married. This is not a knock on any of those couples but for a lot of modern couples, living together before getting married is actually a good way to get to know each other well enough before actually committing to one another.
2. Talk about whether you want kids in the future.
Have the talk about kids very early on in the relationship. For a lot of people, expectations regarding children can be a deal breaker. You have to be willing to talk to your partner about how many kids you want in the future or whether you want any kids at all.
3. Overcome some rough patches in the relationship.
Before you think about getting engaged with each other, you must have at least gone through some difficult patches in your relationship. Your relationship is only as strong as you are when you go through some challenging experiences together. How you deal with hardship says a lot about how strong you are as a couple.
4. Get connected with each other’s social circles.
Meet each other’s families. Introduce your partner to your group of friends. At this point, you should have both already familiarized yourselves with the people in each other’s lives. These are absolute relationship essentials.
5. Talk about your finances.
Don’t succumb to the idea that love will be enough to sustain you in a relationship. It’s not. Grow up. Be more practical. You can’t have a good future if you think that money isn’t going to come up as an important issue. You have to be willing to be honest with your partner about your financial situation.
6. Be financially secure.
In relation to the previous item on this list, it’s not enough for you to be merely honest about your finances. You actually have to establish a sense of financial security before you start getting engaged. There’s a lot of money that goes into engagements and marriages. You can’t be financially irresponsible because you will just be setting yourself up for failure by doing so.
7. Share the responsibility of raising a pet.
Raising a pet is great practice for having a baby together. You are both practically sharing equal responsibility for another life, and so it’s a good gauge to how well you’re both going to handle that kind of pressure.
8. Talk about career plans and goals.
If you’re thinking about getting engaged, then you must know that you’re going to be team mates for life You should be there to push each other to succeed and to be better people. You can’t just be coasting living your individual lives alongside each other. You have to be open to discussing your goals, dreams, and aspirations especially with regards to your careers.
9. Go on a vacation with each other.
You would be surprised at how stressful and challenging it could be to go on a vacation with another person. But it’s a great way to test the dynamics of your relationship. It’s also a great way to find out what your relationship is really made of when you’re both placed in unfamiliar territory.
10. Discuss your expectations for the relationship.
As early as now, discuss the expectations that you have for one another before you start moving on up. You need to know where you stand in the relationship and how far you’re willing to push forward before you actually make any moves.
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