There are so many of us who look at people who are single and assume that they are probably sad and lonely all of the time. There is this stigma attached to people who are alone that depicts them as unlovable, sad, and lonely individuals. And so, sometimes, a lot of us will be really uncomfortable with being alone. We become so scared of how people are going to perceive us that we end up forcing ourselves into relationships that aren’t meant for us. And that’s bad. You should totally be able to embrace being alone in life.
Of course, that isn’t to say that you should just give everything up and start living in a cabin in the woods on your own. You don’t necessarily have to abandon all the people who are around you. You should just be in a place in your life wherein you aren’t desperate to be spending time with other people constantly.
You should totally be comfortable with just being on your own. You should be independent. You should be okay with fending for yourself in this world. You should know how to make the most of the time that you have with yourself. As fun and as fulfilling as relationships might be, you should never be tying your sense of self-worth to them. You shouldn’t be defined by the relationships that you are in.
The point of this article is to make you realize that being alone doesn’t necessarily have to mean that you are lonely. Just because you are on your own doesn’t mean that you’re in a sad situation. Once you do realize that there is a certain joy that comes with being alone, you are going to experience these 10 things:
1. You will get a chance to heal and recharge.
When you are on your own, you are freeing yourself from the toxicity of being with other people. You will get a chance to just heal and recharge. You can get a chance to separate yourself from all the toxic people and situations in your life. You get to call the shots.
2. You allow yourself time to reflect.
You will get some time to really think about your life. You get some time to really reflect on your feelings and your experiences. And you can do so without being distracted by all the noise and chatter from other people.
3. You get to come to terms with who you are.
You really own up to who you are as a person when you become comfortable with just being on your own. You start to appreciate your strengths and you get humbled by all your weaknesses. You acknowledge all the truths surrounding your life.
4. You devote more time to the things that make you happy.
When you start spending more of your time for the things that YOU want to do, then you become a lot happier. You feel more fulfilled because you are no longer living your life on the schedule or direction of other people. You are living it for yourself.
5. You become a lot more productive.
And since you get to block out all the noise and unnecessary people in your life, you get to be more productive. You have more time and energy to do all the things that you have to do. You become so much more productive without all of the distractions.
6. You learn to value the relationships you DO have.
And when you start limiting your social circle, you are going to grow a better appreciation for the relationships that you still have. You don’t always give all of yourself to your relationships anymore, but you know the ones who stay are the ones who want to be there.
When you become comfortable with being on your own, you learn to be more independent. You understand the value of being able to fend for yourself in this life. You understand the importance of being able to make your own way in this world.
8. You don’t kill yourself trying to make other people happy.
You no longer compromise your own happiness just so you can make other people happy. You learn to prioritize yourself. You know that self-love is just as important as any other kind of love and you always make it a point to put yourself first.
9. You don’t have to be worrying about apologies.
You no longer have to be giving senseless apologies left and right to the people who don’t really deserve them in the first place. You become more unapologetic about who you are because of your confidence in yourself.
10. You will stop seeking validation from others.
You know that the only standards you have to live up to are your own. And with that, you won’t really be seeking the validation of others anymore.