Have you been in a toxic relationship?
The worst part about being in a toxic relationship is the fact that you aren’t necessarily aware that you’re in one. You have a vague awareness that you aren’t always happy in the relationship, but you would never justify your union to be toxic. You don’t really feel the immense emotional toll that the relationship plays on you because they come at little spurts. They don’t overwhelm you at one instance, but they can build up over time and break you in the long run. In fact, a lot of people who are caught in toxic relationships see things as a challenge. They think that it’s their job to work on their relationship and make everything perfect. Sure, it’s good to always fight for the love that you think you deserve but not when it results in your own personal destruction.
A lot of girls will stick with toxic relationships out of fear. They think that they would be better off in a toxic relationship than being alone. They think that being in a dysfunctional relationship would be much better than being single. But then again, some girls can’t take that dysfunction and so they choose to break things off. They choose to move on. For those who are lucky enough to find new romantic interests after a toxic relationship, it’s an entirely different experience. Here are a few things that happen to girls who meet good men after going through a bad relationship.
1. You will expect him to be just as bad as your ex.
Because of all the bad experiences in your past, you will come to expect the worst in any man. You will think that all men are the same, and so you think you have to keep yourself guarded. You think that your new man is going to torment you in ways that your ex did, and you will be ready this time.
2. You will read too much into things.
You will overanalyze everything because everything seems to be new to you. He treats you so much better than your ex used to and so you’re left feeling very disoriented. You will try to distance yourself as much as possible so you can again a wider perspective on things.
3. You will think that he can’t possibly be this genuine.
However, despite it all, it seems like he can do no wrong. He’s always saying the right things to you. He is always treating you with respect. He consistently protects your dignity and he never demeans you. It’s almost too good to be true, and you remain skeptical. – Continue reading on the next page
4. You will try to push him away before he can hurt you.
You think that this is all a ruse somehow. You believe that he’s just making you fall in love with him so he can hurt you. Because of your bad experiences in the previous relationship, you have a developed distrust for all men, and this guy shouldn’t be any different in your eyes.
5. You will expect constant arguing and fighting.
In your previous toxic relationship, arguments could come out of nothing. They were a daily occurrence and it was as if you had acclimated yourself to fights and disagreements. However, with this new guy, you don’t really know how to react to the fact that he really doesn’t want to fight with you.
6. You will find yourself saying sorry a lot.
Because conflict was such a constant presence in your previous relationship, you have grown accustomed to apologizing to people just to balance everything out. You’re scared that you might end up making your new guy mad because your old flame was angry all the time. So you find yourself saying sorry constantly even when you don’t really need to.
7. You will question whether you are really deserving of him.
After all this time, you slowly grow accustomed to the fact that he is genuinely a nice guy. He doesn’t want to hurt you and he wants to work together with you to make your love work. You are taken aback and you don’t know how to react. You think that you are a very damaged person and that he deserves better company. – Continue reading on the next page
8. You will think that you have to exert more effort than before.
Easy relationships are new to you. You have never been with someone who makes everything seem so simple and smooth. In your previous relationship, everything always had to be complicated. That’s why you think that you always have to exert maximum effort in every relationship that you’re in; sometimes, even more than is necessary.
9. You will gradually learn to trust him.
Trust is the foundation of every relationship, and this new guy is good enough to actually compel you to let your guard down. You will start learning what it means to be comfortable with someone. You will let yourself be vulnerable to a man who you know would never hurt or betray you.
10. You will really understand what it means to be in love with someone who loves you back.
True love seems to have escaped you until now. Now you get to experience what real love is. Now you get to be with someone who will love you the way that you’ve always wanted; the way that you deserve to be loved.
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Have you been in this situation? Let me know in the comments below!
oh boy! they are all walking red flags!!! will see the real personality and character once live in one house.. The hardest part I most forgive and give more chances until i lose myself. now I dont know whats ahead of me and my 0 yr old baby
Yes, I’ve been in that situation. The relationship is now over…he couldn’t take my negativity. Also, this would have been his first serious adult relationship and I figure he thought he could do better.