Take things slow.
Any experienced lover will know that relationships will always be difficult. While the best kinds of relationships make it seem like they’re carried out effortlessly, the truth is that relationships will always require a lot of work. Couples can’t merely rely on luck and love in order for relationships to work. A lot of effort must go into every relationship to avoid catastrophes and breakdowns. Given the difficulty of running a successful relationship, a lot of people make mistakes so early on, that their relationships never end up recovering. That is why newbies in relationships who are susceptible to making these mistakes should always try to avoid them at all costs. If you are guilty of committing any of these relationship sins, then you might as well kiss you relationship goodbye.
1. Letting yourself be available at all times.
Don’t be so obvious in your eagerness to let your prospective mate know that you’re always game for a night out. You have to play hard-to-get just a little bit in order to keep them in want. Your over-eagerness might end up looking a lot like desperation. Also, try to act like you’re busy and that you have other priorities in your life. You can’t be prioritizing someone you’re just starting to date anyway.
2. Asking them out on dates too much.
Yes. The feeling of dating someone new can be exhilarating and you don’t want to waste any time taking your relationship to the next level. However, you can come off as very gross and suffocating if you ask your new partner out on a date every single date. You have to allow each other space to breathe in between your dates.
3. Stalking people on Facebook and getting caught doing it.
Stop stalking your exes if you know that you’re on the brink of establishing a new relationship with someone. It’s really creepy and pathetic. However, it’s even creepier if you start stalking your potential partner on social media and you get caught doing it. If he or she finds out that you’re a serial stalker, then you might as well start finding someone new to date.
4. Making long-term plans with regard to your relationship.
Don’t plan for dates or events too early in advance. You will come off as overly confident and arrogant in regards to your relationship. You never want to automatically assume that you’ll be spending your lives together too early in a relationship. You want to take things slow and just let things take their natural course. Inviting your new partner to your cousin’s wedding a year in advance is never a good idea.
5. Texting or making contact too frequently.
Don’t be that person who texts your new date every single day. You don’t want to be making too much contact because you might end up driving that person away. Allow each other some time to breathe and grow as individuals. You don’t have to constantly be texting each other in order to take your relationship to the next level.
6. Getting too close a little too quickly.
Don’t ever try your hand at getting too intimate early on in a relationship. Don’t act like you have the authority to talk about close family issues or personal matters with your date. You will come off as incredibly imposing and just disconnected with the situation. Not to mention that you also look really creepy when you try to insert yourself in the narrative.
7. Putting too much meaning into things.
Not every single gesture or conversation has to have a profound meaning in your newfound relationship. Stop trying to read into things too much. You might be prone to sensationalizing your relationship and that’s just plain sad. Stop trying to turn simplicity into things that are too complex and complicated. Sometimes, a text message is just that, a text message; not an unspoken vow of eternal fidelity to you.
8. Putting labels on your relationship even though they’re not ready.
If she’s not ready to be called your girlfriend yet, then don’t call her your girlfriend. If you haven’t discussed the exclusivity of your relationship with him, then don’t say that you’re exclusively dating. It’s hard when you start putting labels on your relationship; labels that only you decided on. You have to take your partner’s perspective into consideration as well.
9. Talking about the future too much.
Stop thinking so far ahead. Don’t pressure your partner into thinking about the long-term relationship game with you. Just live in the moment and take things as they come. Take it one step at a time and make sure that you never move on until both of you are ready to do so.
10. Saying I love you too early in the relationship.
The three dreaded words that either make or break a relationship. Say it too late, and you’ll end up losing someone you valued so dearly. Say it too early, and watch as your partner runs faster than the speed of light. Just chill and make sure that you don’t rush into declaring your love.
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How many of these mistakes have you made?