The truth is that you’re just afraid to fall in love. You try to withdraw yourself emotionally and socially because the thought of opening yourself up frightens you. You think that by shutting yourself in, you’re putting up walls of defense. Other people don’t understand that about you and you just wish that they would.
You’re used to being branded as an anti-social. People usually confuse your refusal to mingle as an inability to relate with others. They think you’re just that weirdo who doesn’t know how to act around other people. For the most part, they might be right, but not in this case. You’re very self-aware, and you’re not really conscious when you’re surrounded by people. There are just some things people don’t know about you and you’re often misunderstood.
The truth is that you’re just afraid to fall in love. You try to withdraw yourself emotionally and socially because the thought of opening yourself up frightens you. You think that by shutting yourself in, you’re putting up walls of defense. Other people don’t understand that about you and you just wish that they would. Here are the 10 things that you do when you’re afraid to love:
1. You keep yourself guarded by pushing other people away.
You don’t ever want to end up as someone who gets hurt in a relationship. You try your best to push other people away whenever you feel them breaking your walls down. You like to keep a fair amount of distance between yourself and other people. You don’t like it when people start to penetrate yourВ feelings because you know that itВ opens you up to potential heartache. You mostly like to keep to yourself by just shutting other people out whenever you get the chance.
2. You find yourself saying no often.
Do you want to see a movie on Friday?
No.
How about let’s grab some dinner next weekend?
I think I’m busy next weekend.
Sound familiar? That’s essentially you whenever you’re presented with opportunities for social interactions. It might sometimes get to the point where your friends no longer invite you out anymore because they know you’re just going to say no.
3. You make up lies to get yourself out of situations.
You’re quite the fibber, you are. You always find yourself telling so many lies just so you don’t have to mingle with other people. You lie about your schedules, your preferences, and your availability just so you don’t have to deal with any social interactions. Just make sure that you’re able to keep up with the intricate web of lies that you’ve managed to weave already.В – Continue reading on the next page
4. You don’t think you’re deserving of love.
You think love is not something that everyone deserves. You find yourself unable to give it to people fully and so you don’t think you’re deserving of it either. You avoid relationships because you’re afraid you’ll end up in a relationship with someone who loves you more than you ever could reciprocate. You don’t want to be placed in such a compromising position so you’d rather not get into a relationship in the first place.
5. You shut yourself in to avoid temptation.
You don’t want to find yourself in a situation where you’re going to end up weak in the knees. You never know when a cute boy or a pretty girl swoops in to sweep you off your feet. You’re afraid of falling in love and so you avoid any possible steps that can lead you to romantic entanglements in general. You’d rather stay locked up in your room where you’re protected from the harsh messes of love.
6. You lie to yourself about being weak.
You don’t think yourself as weak. In fact, you think of yourself as rather strong for being able to survive without love. You think of yourself as a strong and independent person who doesn’t need a relationship to determine your self-worth. That might be true, of course. There’s no taking away from that. But you shouldn’t also use it as a way to deflect your fears and weaknesses as someone who’s afraid to fall in love.
7. You make use of online dating sites as a shield.
You still crave for some love every so often and so what’s the best way to get your fix without investing yourself emotionally? You sign up for Tinder and other dating sites just to get some cheap romantic thrills. You know that this isn’t real love, but it’s enough to get you by.В – Continue reading on the next page
8. You belittle yourself.
You depreciate your own self-worth because you think yourself unworthy of love. You don’t think anyone could ever fancy you because of the way that you feel about yourself. You think relationships are messy because you’re a messy person with a messy life. You have to understand that you’re not the problem, and maybe it won’t hurt you to just give it a try.
9. You change who you are to get out of potential relationships.
Whenever you feel someone starting to get interested in you, you change who you are just to keep them disinterested. You don’t want all the hassles of a relationship and so you try to turn yourself off to everyone else around you.
10. You’re constantly daydreaming about the ideal scenario.
Just because you’re afraid of getting into a relationship doesn’t mean you don’t actually dream about a perfect kind of love. You always find yourself daydreaming about the perfect scenarios and you wish that your dreams will eventually grant you the courage to come out of your shell and find love eventually.
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