Don’t be easy to abuse.
When you really develop a romantic interest or a liking for someone, you really have to be careful. Yes, it’s a great feeling to fall in love and let yourself be vulnerable to someone else. But that also opens you up to being abused and manipulated by another person. You still have to be able to protect your heart from any potential abusers. Remember than when you start to fall in love with someone, you are going to be bombarded with a whirlwind of emotions. And sometimes, that can mean that your feelings will end up clouding your judgement; it could end up impairing your thinking. And when that happens, you start letting your heart lead the way and that isn’t always going to be a good thing.
Yes, it’s important to just take a chance on love, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be taking calculated risks. You should always be weighing the pros and cons. You always have to stay vigilant and make sure that you aren’t allowing other people to just walk all over you like a doormat. And sometimes, you just bring that kind of toxic treatment unto yourself by practicing bad habits.
Make sure that you exude the strength and confidence of someone who isn’t easy to walk over. You don’t want to be opening the door up to people who have the potential to wreak unwanted havoc in your life. Make sure that you are ridding yourself of any bad habits that make you a person who is easy to abuse. You are only setting yourself up to play the role of the victim over and over again if you don’t change your ways. Here are 10 things that you do which make you easy to abuse.
1. You always make yourself available to your partner.
Don’t make yourself constantly available for your partner. When you do this, it only goes to show that you refuse to live an individual life outside of your relationship and that’s always wrong. You have to make sure that you have your sense of individuality intact.
2. You always let your partner off the hook whenever they ditch your plans.
It’s okay for your partner to cancel on dates with you every once in a while for very reasonable excuses. Maybe they have an important work meeting that they really can’t get out of; or maybe they’re feeling really under the weather. But you shouldn’t let them do it to you consistently and unreasonably.
3. You move mountains and seas just to accommodate them into your life.
You shouldn’t always be willing to compromise so much of who you are for your partner. You don’t want to end up resenting your partner for forcing you to give up so many of the things that make you who you are.
4. You don’t give them the time and space that they need to miss you.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. That saying is popular for a reason. You have to give them the time and space away from you so that they can really grow to miss you and appreciate your presence more.
5. You don’t demand from them the same kind of effort that you’re willing to give.
As difficult as it may be, effort must always be balanced in a relationship. You always have to make sure that your partner is giving just as much into the relationship as you are.
6. You let them make the same mistakes over and over again.
They shouldn’t be committing the same relationship mistakes over and over again. Sure, it’s okay to stumble over the same rock maybe once or twice. But when they are constantly committing the wrong things, you shouldn’t have to tolerate that.
7. You blind yourself from the negative aspects of their personality.
Just because you love another person doesn’t mean you should be letting them get away with being terrible people. Don’t blind yourself from the bad aspects of their personality.
8. You drop everything just to pick up a phone call or reply to a text from your partner.
They can wait. Make them wait. You have your own individual life. You have your own tasks and projects you need to work on. You can call them back or reply to them when you have the time.
9. You allow your partner to walk in and out of your life.
If you want to be in a serious relationship with someone, you have to make sure that they actually espouse the kind of stability and consistency that you need from them. You have to be able to demand that they remain a constant fixture in your life.
10. You are content with never being the decision-maker in the relationship.
You should get to call the shots every once in a while. You can’t always defer to your partner. You have to be able to make the decisions sometimes whether big or small.
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