Sometimes, even if you still love someone, you might feel like you need a break from the relationship. This break can be either permanent, meaning it ends the relationship, or temporary, and it can actually make the relationship better.
If you’re thinking about getting back together with your ex, it’s essential to ask yourself some questions to make sure you’re making the right choice. You don’t want to make a decision you’ll regret, right?
1. Why did we break up?
It’s crucial to figure out why you broke up initially and whether that issue can be resolved. For example, if the breakup happened because of a lot of dishonesty and cheating, getting back together may not lead to a better situation.
2. Can we have a calm conversation about our past mistakes?
Talking about why you broke up is important, and it’s essential to do it in a calm and respectful way. You should be able to talk about it openly and truthfully.
3. Do I hold grudges?
Resentment is a feeling that can linger for a long time. If you are still keeping grudges about the breakup, no matter the cause, it’s not a positive sign.
4. Am I able to forgive the messy fallout?
Sometimes, even when both people agree to break up, they may say hurtful things during the breakup. These words are often spoken when emotions are high, but it’s important not to hold onto that negativity because it can affect your second try at the relationship.
5. Are we willing to make compromises?
Think about a situation where your relationship ended because one person was always busy with work, and the other person felt left out because of it. These are examples of problems that need both people to give a little if you want to have a chance at fixing things.
6. Did we set goals for ourselves and accomplish them while we were apart?
When you and your partner take a break, it’s a chance for each of you to think about yourselves and what you want. During this time, you try to reach your goals or make good progress toward them.
7. Why do we want to get back together?
You should be able to answer this question without any doubt, and your answer should be more than just, “We love each other.” In real life, good relationships need more than love; they need working together, being fair, and supporting each other.
8. Have the issues that caused problems been remedied?
Perhaps there were money problems because one of you didn’t have a job, or you were managing a relationship from far away. Whatever those problems were, they should be resolved before you try again.
9. Do we have practical expectations for our relationship and ourselves?
In relationships, it’s important to stay realistic about your and your partner’s goals and how the relationship can be mutually fulfilling.
10. Do they bring out the best in you?
Some people make us feel great, while others don’t. If your partner didn’t make you feel good the first time and hasn’t improved, it’s better to move on and find someone new.
Have you ever reunited with an ex? We’d love to hear your story and insights! Share your thoughts in the comments below.