Consider the following things before breaking up with someone and avoid the regrets.
No one is ever wrong in thinking that breakups are some of the most difficult emotional experiences that human beings go through. Whether you’ve been dating the most amazing guy in the world for the past few years or the snobbiest douche on the planet for the past few weeks, there’s still no denying that breakups can be tough. We were all taught that we have to always work hard in order to make things last even in relationships. We were taught to never give up too easily and to always fight for the things that we want the most; including love. But how do you know when the fighting should just stop and it’s better to just move on? There are so many things that you need to factor in and take into consideration. Here are a few of those things.
1. This will be the end of a lot of things.
You won’t have your constant date nights anymore. You won’t have those daily text messages. You won’t have a constant companion for nights out with friends or big parties. A breakup signifies the end of a lots of different things. More than just an end of an actual relationship, it is the end of different habits and routines that you may have formed together over the course of your union.
2. You might lose some friendships because of the breakup.
When you break up with him, you might also be breaking up with his friends by extension. Of course, people are going to be forced to pick sides especially if the circumstances of the breakup aren’t too healthy. In the long run, you will have to learn to let go of some friendships that you may have forged with the people in his social circle.
3. He might ask that you return things he had given you in the past.
Those expensive gadgets that he bought for you in the past? He might want them back. The household furniture that you have in your shared living space? He might want some of those in his possession when he leaves. Everything you ever shared together in a relationship might become a point of interest in the conflicts of your breakup, and you have to be prepared for that scenario.– Continue reading on the next page
4. You will have to rethink your plans about the future.
Undoubtedly, you had plans for the future that revolved around the two of you being together. But now that you’re thinking about breaking up with him, you must also be prepared to rethink your entire life strategy. You will have to start building new plans with life as a single woman or with another partner, and that takes a lot of work.
5. You have to think about how you’re going to breakup with him.
The actual process of breaking up with someone can be very complicated. Should you do it in person? Should you do it over the phone? Do you want to be looking him in the eye? What are the proper words that you want to use as you break the news to him? These are all very complex questions that you need to answer before you actually break up with him.
6. You will be seen as the villain in this scenario.
Whether you like it or not, the person who instigates the breakup will always be seen as the villain. That’s just a natural aspect of the narrative. You will be seen as the person who ended something that had potential to be great, and you have to be prepared to play that role. You will have to be prepared to live with that label.
7. Social media usage won’t be the same.
He might choose to unfriend you on Facebook. He will block you on Instagram. He might unfollow you on Twitter. Or maybe, he won’t do any of those things and make things even more awkward for you. You will still see each other on your Facebook feeds, but you won’t be interacting the way that you once did.– Continue reading on the next page
8. You have to think about whether a future without him is better than what you have now.
You have to weigh the pros and cons. Things might be bad now, but can you see if things are going to get any better? Do you think that a breakup is going to help improve whatever situation that you are in? Will you be better off after you end your relationship?
9. You have to ready yourself with the idea of him seeing other people.
This might be the most painful part of the breakup. You will have to come to terms with the fact that he might end up finding someone else before you do. That is going to sting. It will hurt to know that he replaced you so quickly, but that comes with the territory of breaking up and there’s nothing you can do about it.
10. You have to prepare for the possibility that he will hate you for it.
You might gain an enemy even if you don’t want to. You might want to remain friends, but there’s no guarantee as to how he’s going to react to you breaking up with him. You’re just going to have to prepare for the worst and live with whatever comes.
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