So what happens when your guy climaxes even though you’re still trying to get yourself there? And it happens fairly often too, doesn’t it? And it’s always frustrating every time I happens to you. You are just so sick and tired of being out of sync with your partner when it comes to your sexual activity.
You just wish that you could both be going at the same pace so that no one ends up feeling cheated. Because let’s face it, most of the time, it’s you who feels cheated.
But you can’t blame the guy for how his body is designed. He didn’t choose for it to be that way. Typically, a man can last between two to five minutes as he’s thrusting a woman whereas a woman can last as long as 20 minutes. So how do we fix that problem? How do we find some kind of middle ground? How do we tip the scales somehow?
Well, first of all, it starts with being able to recognize that it isn’t your man’s fault. You can’t place all of the blame and frustrations on him. You have to be understanding of how these biological factors affect the dynamics in the bedroom.
We are all bound and limited by our own biological makeup. The second thing that you have to understand is that there is a workaround to the problem. There are certain techniques that you can employ to keep the action in the bedroom going for longer and longer so that you eventually reach your climax in unison.
Some of these techniques will have to be employed by him alone. Some of these will have to be performed as a couple. And some of these will be stuff that you have to do on your own as well. Read on to find out how:
1. Make sure that he lays off the booze beforehand.
Alcohol is not a stimulant. It’s a definite downer and he shouldn’t be having too much just before you’re about to do the deed. He might think that it helps take the edge off. But what it really does is it just impairs his senses and it takes away from his natural energy.
2. Don’t let him go all the way in every single time with his thrusts.
The more shallow that he penetrates you, the less stimulation it will be for him; and that means he’s going to be able to last longer.
3. Gently squeeze his manhood when you feel like he’s about to blow.
Sometimes, the best way to keep him from blowing his load would be to give his manhood a light and gentle squeeze with your fingers. It can serve as some kind of blocking mechanism and it can help him keep everything inside for longer.
4. Maintain a certain level of physical fitness.
The better strength and endurance that you’re going to have – the longer you’re going to be able to sustain a particular move and person. It’s just that simple. So never downplay the importance of physical fitness when it comes to sex.
5. Remind him to focus on his breathing.
Breathing is a great way for a guy to really focus on what he’s doing and to not let his hormones take full control of him. That’s why a lot of men who practice serious yoga tend to perform better in the bedroom – to add to all of that core strength and flexibility.
6. Read and study the Kama Sutra.
The Kama Sutra isn’t just some cliché book that serves as the butt of a joke for a lot of couples. There is actually a lot of sexual wisdom that you can derive from this particular piece of literature. Don’t be afraid to consult the Kama Sutra for techniques on how you can both reach climax together.
7. Don’t make him feel anxious or self-conscious about coming too early.
If you continually make him feel bad about coming too early, he’s going to become more anxious and self-conscious about his bedroom performance. And that’s not going to help the situation at all. So try to approach things constructively.
8. Really draw out your foreplay as much as possible.
Foreplay is torture for him, but it’s great for you. With prolonged foreplay, you are being constantly stimulated. And when you’re just about to reach your climax, he can then proceed to do the deed with you so that you can finish together.
9. Go for slow and smooth motions instead of fast and intense thrusts.
It’s a marathon, not a sprint. So go for slow and smooth movements if you really want to sustain the pace that you’re going at.
10. Make him wear a condom.
A condom isn’t going to give him that natural stimulation that all men are typically going to love – but it won’t make much difference to you as a woman. So it’s a win for you. You can even try those condoms that are ribbed for your own personal pleasure. The less stimulation for him means the longer it will take for him to climax.
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Question: I have issues when it comes to doing it fast, and when i do i cannot hold, how can i overcome it? the first few mins sometimes make it very uncomfortable and i had to come, not sure if its breathe problem or what, my wife wants to have things fast, and i like it slow to begin, what should i do to run long and fast?