This is going to be a two-part series, starting with the women. This one is for the guy, and what turns them off. We all have our own turn offs but some things are just so general that they can be applied to everyone. These are going to be ten of the most common things women do that turn men off. Let’s begin.
10. Too much nagging
A little nag here and there is alright and is natural, but it shouldn’t become a part of your daily lives. Guy hate it when girls nag too much, it starts affecting them in a negative way. They slowly stop sharing things because they’re too tired of the nagging, they slowly start keeping to themselves, all of these things lead to arguments and fights later on since one of the partner isn’t being natural and is forcing a lot of things. Everyone complains, it’s alright to complain for good reason, but complaining all the time is a huge turn off for men.
9. Flirting/being too friendly with other men
Men hate it when they see their woman being too friendly with someone. Regardless of the fact that your guy friend might go way back and the bond you two share is strong, it’s still going to affect your boyfriend in a bad way. When you get in a relationship, you have to change a lot of things about yourself, this is one of them. This can also lead to other destructive things such as jealousy and insecurity.
8. Talking all the time
I personally love having conversations with my girlfriend, we talk on an equal pace and we let each other talk as much as we want as long as we are listening to one another. But my ex used to have a habit of being the leader of the conversations, she just used to talk about her interests, her day, her friends, her likes and dislikes. I never felt like I was part of any conversations with her because I usually just had to say “yes” and “ahan” to be a part of those conversations. This one is another huge turn off for men. Have meaningful conversations that are two-sided.
7. Never listening
This is a continuation to my last point, guys hate it when they feel like their girl isn’t listening to them. I’m not talking about giving orders, that’s just too extreme. I’m talking about general conversations. For example; if I have a bad day at work, I don’t feel okay until I discuss it with my girlfriend because she always says something to make me feel better in the end, this is because she’s actually listening to what I’m saying and takes interest in our conversations. Girls who simply nod their heads or show little interest are the ones guys tend to stay away from. Don’t make them feel like you’re not listening to them, it should be an equal effort.
6. Too many bad habits
We all have a few bad habits, and it’s time to get rid of them when they start getting in the middle of our relationships. I used to be a smoker, I had to quit for the sake of my girlfriend because she used to hate that habit of mine, I didn’t even think twice before quitting because it was damaging my health and wasn’t good for me. Same goes for a few bad habits women develop, it could be anywhere to smoking and drinking to other things, it all depends on the guy they’re dating. A few guys would be okay with all of your bad habits and won’t try improving your personality, those are the guys who are with you for all the wrong reasons and don’t really care about you. I know I’ve always said that no one can change you and no one has the right to change you, but when it comes to bad habits you definitely need to change for your own sake and for the sake of your relationship.
5. Obsessing too much
Men hate it when women obsess a little too much on the same thing again and again. I’ve given you good examples of my relationship, here’s a negative one; my girlfriend wanted me to work out regularly, I wasn’t able to take proper time out for the gym because of my busy work schedule and I expected her to understand. But she started obsessing over it. Almost all of our conversations had one or two mentions of the gym, this started bugging me after a while because she knew I was busy and I still tried. So we talked about it, she stopped obsessing over it and I started going to the gym when I was finally able to take the time out for it. If someone obsesses over something too much, it loses its charm.
4. Being too unreal
Men hate it when women have too many unreal expectations. It’s good to have life goals and it’s good to want to achieve them, but it’s not okay to give someone too many unreal expectations. It could really bring your man down and frustrate them on a whole new level. Have realistic expectations from him and let him reach those expectations on his own pace and time.
3. Being too mean
Another thing that turns men off is when a girl is too mean, maybe not to him but to others. Kindness is a virtue that not everyone practises, but it’s a golden virtue to have. Be kind to others, be kind to those who aren’t living the good life, be kind to those who need help, being mean to people is a huge sign that your ego took the better of you and ego is a huge turn off for men.
2. Having problems with “guy time”
All men have their guy friends, their “boys” that they hang out with and can’t be normal without. Guys love it when their girls are supportive of their friends. Tell him to spend more time with his friend if he’s giving you enough time, force him to have boys night out and have fun.
1. Talking about her ex
It’s a huge turn off for men when women start discussing their exes. It’s okay to talk about him once in a while if it’s hurting you too much, but if you start discussing him after every few days your boyfriend is going to have a problem with it and it’s going to be a huge turn off for him that you’re still not completely out of your past relationship.
What else turns you off, guys? Let me know in the comments below. Ladies, keep an eye out for “10 things guys do that turn women off”. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!