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10 Things You Can Do To Get Your Girl In The Mood

Sharmaine Angela Sharmaine Angela | May 26, 2018 | 5 min read

intimacy is a very vital part of many modern relationships – and there’s a good reason for it. It’s the ultimate expression of physical intimacy. It’s the ultimate show of mutual vulnerability. There is nothing more vulnerable than being able to bare your whole self to your partner in such a manner that you would doing intimacy. You would never feel more connected – whether physically or emotionally – as you do when you’re being intimate. And that’s why a lot of the strongest and happiest couples are the ones who have very healthy and active intimacy lives. In addition to physical connection, a fulfilling intimacy can enhance communication and trust between partners. When you prioritize intimacy, it’s also an opportunity to be more romantic to your lady, igniting sparks and deepening the bond you share. Ultimately, these moments can transform an ordinary relationship into an extraordinary one, fostering lasting happiness and mutual satisfaction.

So, it’s always a good thing if you and your partner are intimate in your relationship. However, if the both of you consider intimacy to be a very big deal in your romantic lives, then that means that you both have responsibilities to meet each other’s needs. Of course, on a biological level, men are always put at a disadvantage when it comes to having to pleasure their intimate counterparts. It’s so easy for men to get into the mood because of how they are wired physiologically.

And it’s even easier to get men to peak moment than it is for women. However, that doesn’t mean that you have an excuse for not doing everything in your power to sexually satisfy your girl. That is still your responsibility as her partner. But what do you do if you notice that she’s just not in the mood a lot? What if it’s so hard for you to just get her to actually be sexually intimate with you without forcing her into it? Well, there are a few things that you can be doing to improve your chances of getting laid in your relationship. Consider finding ways to connect emotionally and build intimacy outside of the bedroom, as fostering a deeper bond can work wonders. Simple gestures, such as thoughtful surprises or planned date nights, can significantly change her mood and make her feel more desired. In fact, some of the top ways to make her smile include little acts of kindness and genuine compliments that show her how much you appreciate her.

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1. Keep physically fit – duh.

Physical fitness brings with it a lot of benefits when it comes to being intimate. For one, you’re going to look a whole lot better. The better you look, the more enticed your girl is going to be to want to be intimate with you. But also, the fitter you are, the better your performance in the bedroom is going to be. Your added strength and stamina will go a long way in pleasuring her.

2. Give her plenty of your time.

Sometimes, a girl just wants to feel wanted. And there’s nothing that makes her feel more wanted than by giving her most of your time. Let her know that you prioritize her and that you’re always going to make time for her.

3. Make use of fancy cologne.

It might seem like a simple thing, but girls are more likely to get into the mood intimate whenever they are with a man who smells really good. Make sure to use a cologne that she likes and responds well too. The more expensive and stronger cologne might not necessarily be the more effective one.

4. Make sure to always practice good hygiene.

This should be natural to you already – regardless if you want her to be intimate with you or not. However, it always pays to practice good hygiene. She isn’t going to want to get down and dirty with a man who is already dirty to begin with.

5. Wine and dine her first.

Sometimes, it’s all about earning it first. Go back to the foundations of dating and take her out for dinner first. Get her in the mood by meticulously planning a sweet and intimate date with her. Really connect with her and focus all of your attention on the date that you’re on. Be present in the moment; she’s going to respond well to that.

6. Make sure to always be at her side even during the bad days.

Let her know that you’re close enough as a couple to always withstand whatever trials you might face together. She is going to be able to confide with you both in a physical and emotional manner.

7. Be as gentlemanly as possible.

Make sure to always act like a true gentleman whenever you’re around her. Think of yourself as James Bond. There’s a reason why he always manages to get the girl in the movies. It’s all about exuding charm and poise whenever you’re with your girl.

8. Dress in a way that really highlights your good looks.

You would be surprised at how effective a good choice of clothes can be at getting her in the mood. Just dress better. Dress your age – and in a way that really highlights your physical strengths.

9. Get emotionally intimate with her.

Sometimes, emotional intimacy can lead to physical intimacy. In fact, that’s often the case with women. Just open yourself up and bare your soul to her. And she’s going to do the same for you. It’s the little things that count, and small gestures to show affection can deepen that connection. A simple note left in her bag or unexpected flowers can mean the world. When both partners actively seek to express their feelings, the bond grows stronger.

10. Flirt with her.

Sometimes, it’s all a matter of going back to the basics. Go back to old-fashioned flirting. Let her know that you still want her. Flatter her with your desire and affection. Make her feel special by letting you know that you’re still attracted to her and that you’re willing to work for her attention


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· November 8, 2021

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Sharmaine is a writer and relationship columnist based in New York. She studied sociology and has spent the last seven years writing about love, identity, and what it actually takes to build something lasting with another person. Her work is sharp, culturally aware, and never afraid to ask the uncomfortable question in the room. Readers come for the insight and stay for the honesty. When she is not at her desk she is at a concert, on a long walk through her neighborhood, or texting her friends paragraphs they did not ask for.