Stop making things impossible for each other.
Navigating the dating world can be both intimidating and confusing especially for the less experienced ones. In fact, there are just too many people out there who needlessly over-complicate their dating life just because they don’t really know what they’re doing. If you find that a lot of the items on this list apply to you and your life in love, then there are some adjustments that you need to be making. Here are some things that you do that over-complicate your own love life:
1. You never trust anyone when they tell you that they like you.
You are always skeptical of people and how they really feel about you and as a result, you end up pushing them away. There’s no need for you to always doubt that other people like you. First of all, you have to see yourself as an amiable human being. And second, you need to be more trusting of people if you want to find eventual success in your dating life.
2. You don’t make it a point to initiate a date with someone.
You are too passive in your approach to dating. Regardless if you’re a man or a woman, you have to understand that you have to take the initiative when it comes to dating. You can’t always be passive anymore. If you want something, you have to go out and get it. This philosophy applies to love as well. You can’t afford to take a backseat to your own dating life.
3. You stress yourself out whenever things are going better than you expect.
You are always thinking and expecting something to go wrong in your relationship even when there’s no need to do so. It’s unreasonable for you to keep approaching relationships like this. It’s perfectly plausible for your relationship to go well without any hitches. You can’t keep on expecting bad things to happen. You have to be able to take things as they come. You also have to approach relationships with a more optimistic outlook.
4. You compare your own love life to the love lives of your friends.
There’s no point in comparing your dating life to those of your friends’. You have to understand that it’s always going to be a case to case basis. Just because something works for your friend doesn’t mean that it’s going to work for you as well and vice versa. You have to focus all of your energy into your own dating life.
5. You are too afraid to act because you don’t want to be seen as someone who is aggressive and overeager.
You don’t want to be branded as someone who is too desperate or overeager and so you just cripple yourself into passivity as a result. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. That’s the whole point of dating. You should be willing to experiment. You have to allow yourself to be vulnerable and receptive of others.
6. You care too much about what other people have to say about your relationship.
It’s fine to heed the advice of others especially when you know that they are more experienced in dating. But you also have to remember that you shouldn’t let other people dictate how you want to approach your dating life. You know yourself the best and only you get to decide what kind of satisfaction you can get out of relationships.
7. You think that all people of the opposite sex are essentially the same.
You can’t assume that all people of the opposite sex are going to be the same. Just because you’ve had bad dating experiences in the past doesn’t mean that it’s always going to be bad for you in the future. You have to learn to give people a chance to prove you wrong. Give them a chance to show you their worth.
8. You look for problems whenever things are going smoothly.
You are always expecting things to go wrong, and as a result, you start looking for problems even when they aren’t there. Just relax and go with the flow. Stop being so uptight about everything.
9. You overshare the intimate details of your relationship to your friends and family.
You don’t have to open up about the nitty-gritty aspects of your dating life to the people around you. There are some things that you just have to keep to yourself and you need to be the one who figures them out as well. You have to take ownership of your own life especially when it comes to dating.
10. You put too much unnecessary pressure on yourself when you date people.
You have to remember what dating is all about in the first place. It’s essentially spending time with a person and trying to enjoy that person’s company. You don’t automatically have to put pressure on yourself to make sure that you’re compatible with someone. You don’t have to automatically be thinking about what a future relationship with this person is going to be like. Learn to just live in the moment and try to maintain full mindfulness of what’s happening around you.
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