10 Things You Learn After Your First Loving Relationship

What did you learn?

For the early skeptics, love isn’t all that big a deal. They make excuses for not wanting to entertain love in their lives. They will claim that they just don’t have the time or patience for it. They will say that it just isn’t a priority. They will say that they are just too focused on other more important aspects of life and they will have no time for trivial affairs. But all it takes is for one single moment to change the perspectives of these skeptics forever.

I know this because I used to be a skeptic. One day, I was perfectly fine by myself. Living my strong and independent life was what it was all about for me. But then I met someone and I was smitten. I didn’t know what to feel. I didn’t know to do. One thing led to the next and then eventually, I became the very thing that I swore I had no interest in becoming at that time. Love came earlier for me than I was expected and it caught me completely off guard 

But that’s okay. I somehow managed to make it work for myself. And I’m here to tell everyone else who are the way that I used to be. It’s okay to be skeptical. But always remember that when love comes knocking, you shouldn’t try to fight it. There are so many things that I learned as a result of just letting myself go with the flow:

1. It’s both everything and nothing you expect at the same time.

You get an idea of what these love affairs and relationships are like based on the movies, books, and the relationships of your friends. And so you can somewhat form some kind of expectation for yourself when you enter a relationship. The weird thing is that while all your expectations may come true; the magical, beautiful, and happy parts of it; it is also so much more. It has the power to overwhelm your feelings and emotions. It’s something that you could never prepare for. 

2. Attraction is what gets you interested, passion is what is going to keep you interested.

Yes, at first your initial attraction is what is going to create sparks between you. But the passion that you will have for each other is what is going to keep the flame burning. You have to learn how to keep it alive and propagate it properly. 

3. A romantic partner is practically a best friend.

You’re not only gaining someone you can fall in love with; you are also gaining a best friend. You are gaining a confidant. You are gaining someone you can rely on even as the times get tough. When you are in a relationship with someone, you have someone who will always have your back. 

4. You will need to share lots of laughs if you want to be happy.

Let loose with each other. Love shouldn’t always have to be serious. Love doesn’t always have to be hot and steamy. Love can also be innocent and playful. Be weird around one another. Share as plenty laughs as possible together.

5. Communication is paramount. 

You can’t possibly survive having a relationship together if you don’t feel like you can talk to each other. You have to be able to maintain open lines of communication at all times with one another. Talking is important because it is an important aspect of establishing a connection with each other. – Continue reading on the next page

6. It should always be a give-and-take.

Love should never have to be one-sided. One person shouldn’t be getting the most out of the relationship while the other is always left feeling unsatisfied. There should be a proper balance between couples. One person can’t manage to bear the entire weight of the relationship. 

7. Awkwardness comes with the package and that’s normal.

You are going to have your awkward moments together but that comes with the territory of being vulnerable to one another. You are slowly opening yourselves up to each other and that isn’t always going to be a comfortable experience. 

8. Being in love with someone else doesn’t mean you have to stop loving yourself.

Never stop loving yourself in a relationship. Yes, you have to make compromises here and there. Yes, you are going to have to take your partner’s feelings and opinions into consideration. But your compromises should never come at the expense of you loving yourself.

9. You are supposed to still have a life outside of your relationship. 

You shouldn’t let your relationship define you. You should be someone who has a life outside of the relationship. You should still be able to have other things going on for you like your career, your family, and your favorite passions. 

10. You don’t know what you’re doing half of the time, but that’s okay so as long as you’re together.

No one is going to have love figured out the first time, but that’s okay. That’s what your partner is there for. You are both on this journey together and you are going to have to figure things out as you go along. 

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