It’s going to take quite a while before she really allows herself to open up to you.
Each one of us as human beings are unique. We all have our own individual personalities and we all need to be able to adjust our behavior to some degree if we want to learn to get along with everybody. It’s the same in dating. No two people are the same and so the approach to dating someone is going to vary from person to person. In particular, you approach to dating a happy and bubbly girl is going to be so much different from your approach to dating a girl who is damaged.
Remember that a girl who is damaged has had some rough experiences in her life. She has had to go through some stuff that not many other people would have had the strength to endure. It’s a shocker that the girl who is damaged is even willing to emerge back into the dating scene. So if you’re interested in dating her and making her fall in love with you, you are going to have to make a few adjustments in your approach. Here are a few things that you need to know about dating a girl who is damaged.
1. It’s not going to be easy to earn her trust right away.
She has given her trust to men before and they all ended up betraying her. So you can’t expect her to be so willing to trust you right away even if your intentions are true. You are really going to have to earn her trust by devoting a lot of time and attention to her.
2. It’s going to take quite a while before she really allows herself to open up to you.
She is going to be closed off and guarded. She has been hurt so many times before and she’s afraid of getting hurt again. She won’t allow herself to become too vulnerable to you right away. And so don’t be surprised if she will seem cold and distant at the start.
3. She is going to act very suspicious of you when you’re first starting out.
Even if you are going to be a genuinely nice person with noble intentions, she isn’t going to be so trusting right away. She won’t necessarily believe that you are a true gentleman even if you don’t have any ulterior motives. It will take her substantial time before she warms up to you.
4. She isn’t going to be okay with taking things fast in the relationship.
You need to be able to take your time with her. She isn’t going to want to rush into anything. She is tired of always getting hurt in the relationship and she doesn’t want to make the same mistakes that she used to make in the past.
5. The superficial things in a relationship won’t be enough to impress her.
If you really want to win her over, you’re going to have to go deep. None of the shallow stuff are going to impress her. You could give her compliments. You could buy her gifts. But none of that is going to matter much to her.
6. She may not be interested in the idea of having kids or getting married.
She isn’t probably going to like the idea of having kids or getting married in the future. She has had dreams in the past and they all ended up crashing down on her. But you just have to be patient and honest with her about your expectations as well.
7. She is going to have a contingency plan in place.
Don’t take it personally if she is going to have a back-up plan. She has just experienced too many failed relationships and she wants to prepare herself for the possibility of this relationship failing as well. It’s not you. It’s more of everything that has happened to her.
8. You are going to have to deal with her insecurities.
She is going to be incredibly insecure. Because of all the bad things that have happened to her, she is going to come to believe in her own unworthiness and helplessness. She might think that she’s not really worthy of love. You’re going to have to constantly reassure you of her worth.
9. She is going to go through spurts of irrational behavior and lash out at you.
She is going to blame you for something that you didn’t do. She is going to accuse you of something that isn’t even your fault. That’s just because she’s so traumatized from people hurting her in the past. You just have to help navigate her back to a place of peace and sanity.
10. She isn’t going to be ready to commit to you right away.
Commitment isn’t going to come easily to her. She isn’t going to want to dive into anything serious right away. You just have to make sure that you make her comfortable and you don’t pressure her into anything.
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