Are you killing the romance?
All relationships have their fair share of silent killers. You would even be surprised at how often these silent killers come from you and you don’t even notice it. There are times wherein you can get caught up in a few bad habits that you think are innocent but in truth, they are slowly sapping the life out of your relationship. Remember that in order to maintain the stability and integrity of a relationship, you always need to develop a sense of introspection and self-awareness. You always need to be aware of how your actions and word are impacting your relationship and how they affect your partner. You can’t afford to be indifferent when it comes to this aspect of your relationship.
As you get deeper and deeper into a relationship, it can be very easy for people to take each other for granted. They tend to grow complacent and often, this complacency can lead to habitual behavior that slowly deteriorates a relationship until things get unsalvageable. You always have to make sure that you never grow complacent in your relationships. You must always be vigilant and be conscious of your own behavior. You can’t afford to turn a blind eye to all the atrocities that you are committing in the relationship yourself.
So to help enlighten you, this article is going to list down a few common ways that people sabotage their own relationships without even realizing it. If you find that you are guilty of a lot of the items that are going to be listed on here, then you need to make the necessary adjustments to preserve the integrity of your relationship. You don’t want to end up as the primary cause for the downfall of your romantic union.
1. You always feel the need to be right in a relationship.
Learn to let things go every once in a while. You don’t have to win every single argument. Sometimes, it’s better to just give your partner the win in order to preserve the harmony in a relationship.
2. You find a way to make everything all about you.
The spotlight can’t always be on yourself. Remember that you are in a relationship with another person and you have to be able to share the attention. You can’t always be one-sided with your thoughts and your efforts. You always have to take your partner into consideration as well.
3. You fail to express your gratitude and appreciation for your partner.
Never make your partner feel undermined or undervalued in the relationship. Never waste any opportunity to let your partner know just how much you appreciate their efforts in your romantic affair. You can’t take their noble gestures for granted if you want them to be consistent about it.
4. You fail to prioritize the relationship above your own selfish needs.
You can’t afford to always just be selfish in the relationship. In order to sustain a romantic union with another person, you have to learn to be generous, selfless, and thoughtful.
5. You have unreasonable expectations for your partner.
Always learn to manage your expectations in your relationships. You can’t afford to be unreasonable when it comes to your demands for your partner. You will only be setting your partner up for failure, and you will be setting yourself up for disappointment.
6. You don’t make an effort to look good for your partner anymore.
Physical attraction is always going to play a role in your relationship no matter what. If you stop trying to look good for your partner, it will make your partner feel like they aren’t worth your efforts anymore.
7. You criticize your partner openly and often.
Yes, honesty is valuable in any relationship, however, you also have to learn to pick your spots wisely. Just because your partner screws up doesn’t automatically warrant you the right to criticize them right away. You have practice some patience, understanding, and sensitivity a lot in a relationship. Not every fault needs to be called out.
8. You don’t allot enough time for your partner or the relationship.
Remember that time is the absolute most valuable thing that you could ever give another person in this world. Time is the only thing in the universe that can’t be reproduced, purchased, or bargained for. That’s why in order to show another person that they matter to you, you should be able to devote some time for that person.
9. You don’t practice open communication with your partner.
Honest and open communication is absolutely important in any relationship. You always have to make your partner feel like you value one another’s opinions. You can’t promote a culture of censorship and suppression in your relationship.
10. You don’t express your love or affection to your partner.
Never miss out on an opportunity to express your love or your affection for your partner. Remember that it’s better to come off as smothering and clingy than it is to come off as cold and indifferent in the relationship.
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