It’s no secret that one of the most toxic and destructive human emotions is anger. It might feel like no matter what you do or how you try to approach things, it’s always a struggle whenever you are trying to reason with a person who is irate. A lot of the time, it’s because that person is being ruled by emotions instead of logic and reason.
And it can be very irritating whenever you are dealing with an angry partner. You will be tempted to respond with anger as well but you should know that that would only be making the situation worse. Remember that you can’t really fight fire with fire, as they say. You must think of new ways to combat these situations because you don’t want to allow yourself to be a pushover either. But what else is there for you to do?
Well, the first thing that you have to do is to remind yourself to stay calm. Always remain relaxed in these situations and have a good hold of your emotions. You don’t want to make the mistake of letting your feelings dictate the way that you conduct yourself. Maintain a level head and remind yourself of the following ways you can deal with an angry partner.
1. Be patient and mindful of the words that you use.
Always stay mindful and patient of the kind of language that you use with your partner. You don’t want to be saying anything that might only worsen the situation. Try to use neutral words so as not to trigger your partner any further.
2. Convey your point and sentiment in a calm and respectful manner.
Maintain tact, class, grace, poise, and most importantly… respect. You are still human beings and you must always hold on to your dignity.
3. Stick with constructive communication habits.
Always stick to constructive words and phrases. Never make your partner feel like you are attacking them or else you will end up agitating them even further. Try your best to always stay sensitive and calm in this kind of situation.
4. Practice compassion.
Compassion is always going to be important when you’re dealing with an angry person. You should know that that anger is actually coming from somewhere. And if you are able to understand where it’s coming from, then you will be better equipped to handle the situation.
5. Practice restraint.
A lot of times, you will want to respond to anger with anger as well. And this is where it’s important for you to practice restraint. You always want to make sure that you don’t add any more heat to an already fiery situation.
6. Avoid triggers of anger.
Be mindful of the way that you are conducting yourself. Everything that you say and do can be a potential emotional trigger for your partner. And that’s why you also want to be policing yourself in this regard.
7. Walk away when things get too heated.
Try to only talk when the both of you are calm. You should know that high levels of emotion can often compromise a person’s logic and better judgment. That can make for a very unconstructive conversation and it might end up making things worse instead.
8. Don’t try to be too controlling of your partner.
Sometimes, you just have to let a person feel angry before they can be okay again. You can’t always control how another person is going to feel. And so, let go of the need to always manipulate the situation that you are in.
9. Be mindful of your surroundings.
Remember that your arguments might not necessarily just be affecting you two as a couple. If you are in a public place, you might be making the people around you feel uncomfortable as well.
10. Don’t be afraid to table the discussion for another time.
Sometimes, an argument can get really drawn out to the point where it becomes counterproductive. It’s okay to have fights and disagreements in a relationship but you must always find a way to address them. However, you shouldn’t take that to mean that they need to be resolved immediately. Some issues are going to take time and that’s okay.
Anger is always a tricky emotion to deal with. We are all going to feel it to a certain extent. But we must always try to minimize its toxic effects as much as possible. And all of that can be done with maturity, patience, understanding, and love.
At the end of the day, love is always going to be the only force that is capable of driving out hate. When you find yourselves feeling too angry, remind yourselves of the love that you have for one another and let that love shine through. Let that love rule over your lives together.