It is natural how every relationship is all rainbows and butterflies for the first few months. You want to make your partner a part of everything you do, be it brushing your teeth together, going on an adventurous trip or solving life problems as one. But the same charm and energy are lost from relationships merely after some years. You get used to your partner and the things you two do together, it all becomes monotonous. The things that excited you both now feel more habitual. The fire burns out before you two even realize it. As hard as it is to do so, here are a few steps to keep the fire burning in your relationship even after a decade:
1. Compliment each other more often
Everyone loves getting compliments, especially the unexpected ones. Getting a compliment from your better half can genuinely make your day! It makes you feel like you’re still loved inside out. Compliment their smile, or their dressing, cooking, etc. every other day to let them know you think about them more often than they imagine. Compliments strengthen friendship between you and your significant other, and that is an essential factor for a healthy relationship.
2. Communication is key
At the start of a relationship, you talk about anything and everything with your companion. As time passes by, you stop telling them almost everything and fill them in with the needed details of the day or so. When you stop communicating with your partner, especially about the things that are worrying you in a relationship, you are not giving them a chance to make it right. It affects the both of you as well as your mental peace and happiness. Confide in them, talk it out. Let them know what goes on in your head and vice versa.
3. Never take them for granted
After a few years, you eventually get used to being with your other half and the things they do for you. You are the reason for the spark to die out in the relationship because you get a little too comfortable with them being around. Stop taking them for granted and appreciate their presence. Acknowledge and compliment even the small things that they do for you in everyday life. It is much needed for your partner to know that the things they do, don’t go unnoticed.
4. Be more intimate with them
When life events take over, you’re so busy dealing with them every day you barely have the time to be intimate with your other half. From days it becomes weeks and then months from when you’re physically active with your partner, and that affects your relationship more than you realize. There’s nothing more lovable and affectionate than showering your partner with hugs and kisses and more. Show them what they mean to you, explore new and exciting ways of intimacy and keep the fire forever burning.
5. Be supportive
A loving and healthy relationship with your spouse is all about understanding each other, letting them know you have their back, loving them unconditionally, always being faithful to them and being super supportive of everything they do or plan to. Support from your loved one has the most significant positive impact on your life. It builds up your confidence like never before and makes you believe in yourself. Remember, it’s always the small things that matter and have the biggest impact.
6.Apologize and accept apologies:
Don’t ever underestimate the power of a heartfelt apology. There may be a lot in your relationship that isn’t going the way you wanted it to, and it is in fact, going in the opposite direction. Things can get ugly but fights, bitterness, sadness and resentfulness that your heart and mind are drowning in at this moment can quickly become water under the bridge if a couple decides to sincerely apologize to one another and open their hearts to the acceptance of each other’s sorry. Don’t give up, keep trying to fix things if they ever go wrong and always apologize when there’s a need to apologize. It makes things a lot simpler.
7. Be kind to his friends and family:
There may be people in the life of your loved one that may mean a lot to him. Be sure to be as nice as you can to these people. Get friendly with his friends, be good to his family. Try and mingle with them. It is a powerful gesture of love because this way, you will let your partner know that who and what is important to them is important to you too. It gives them all the more reason to trust you.