1. She stops taking love so seriously.
You’ve tried your hand at love so many times in the past, and you have failed every single time. And you’re practically tired of it. You’ve grown cynical to the idea of love and you no longer want to have anything to do with it. You think that love is a joke because you just never seem to be able to find it for yourself. And that’s why you’ve stopped taking it seriously. However, that is a huge mistake. Love is ALWAYS a serious matter. And you’re never going to find it if you take a casual approach to it.
2. She puts up very big and heavy walls.
You have been at the mercy of so many emotional predators in the past. You have been victimized by so many abusive men before that now you’re too scarred and traumatized. You no longer want to open yourself up to getting hurt and that’s why you’re going to put up so many walls. And while it’s good to stay guarded, remember that you aren’t blocking out the people who are actually worth having in your life.
3. She accepts sadness to be a perpetual aspect of life.
Yes, there are a few times in life wherein we are going to be sad and lonesome. And that’s normal. It’s part of the duality of life. We can’t experience happiness if we don’t know what sadness feels like. But the opposite is also true. Don’t be so content with living a life of sadness. Rise up and pursue happiness. You deserve to do so.
4. She stops sharing her life with others.
Don’t you ever stop thinking that your life is beautiful and that it’s something that you always need to be sharing with others? You have a great and wonderful personality, and a lot of other people are going to want to be around you because of it. Don’t deprive them of that opportunity by working in seclusion. You have a radiant personality that deserves to be put on display.
5. She forgets about her own strength.
Just because you have been used and manipulated so many times in the past doesn’t mean that you are weak. In fact, you’re still standing – and that is a real testament to the strength and resilience that you have as a human being. It takes a lot to bounce back from emotional trauma and torment. But here you are. Don’t ever forget how strong you are on the inside.
6. She loses her hope for love and romance.
Never lose your hope for love. It’s the one thing in this world that is always worth fighting for. It’s the one idea in this world that is always worth clinging to.
7. She focuses on the negative.
You have been through so many negative experiences in life that they have all seemed to drown out the positive. Even though you might have been an optimist in the past, all of that positivity has been flushed away because of how many times you have been used, abused, and manipulated. And you shouldn’t feel that way. There is ALWAYS a reason to smile. You just have to focus on the positive.
8. She surrounds herself with other broken and toxic people.
Misery loves company, as they say. But don’t give in to that idea. Try attaching yourself to stronger people so that you can be inspired to find that same strength within yourself as well. Choose to be with people who pull you up.
9. She thinks she can solve problems on her own.
You don’t have to do everything alone. You have to remember that if you’re going through some serious trials in life, you have people who love you; and they would be more than willing to help you out through the entire ordeal.
10. She stops taking risks for love.
Never ever think that love isn’t going to be a risk that you have to take. If you want a shot at falling in love for real, then you’re going to need to take a chance on someone. Love is never something that you are assured of. Love is never going to be a certainty. Love is always going to have to be something that you fight for with every single fiber of your being. Love is something that you pursue, and it won’t be handed to you on a silver platter.
11. She allows herself to stay broken.
Never be content to stay broken in your own life. Always work towards becoming stronger and better. Even if you have been bent and broken in the past, don’t stay that way. You should never allow yourself to just stay down and out. Get back up and fight for the love that you think you are genuinely deserving of.