Sometimes, a lot of people are prone to sabotaging their own relationships without even knowing it.
Women are capable of great things. There is no point in trying to downplay the potential of a woman to change the world. Society has changed and women have proven the capacities of their power time and time again. Unfortunately, that isn’t always going to be a good thing.
Gone are the days when men had the overwhelming stronghold on all social institutions particularly marriages. In the old days, men used to always make decisions on behalf of the family. Men used to always be the ones who were steering the ship and calling all the shots.
So the success or failure of a marriage always depended on the man. But nowadays, men and women are on more of an equal footing. So women now have the potential to also bring success to the family; but they also have the potential to sabotage their own marriages.
Sometimes, a lot of people are prone to sabotaging their own relationships without even knowing it. Their emotions are just way too strong and they end up blinding themselves to the truth of the situation. If you want to make sure that your marriage works out, you always have to maintain a healthy objective perspective on things. You always have to make sure that you aren’t unknowingly destroying your relationships with your bad habits.
So if you find yourself guilty of a lot of the items listed on here, you have to make sure you change your ways if you want to make your marriage work:
1. They withhold their intimacy and affection.
Women should never be withholding when it comes to love or kindness. When you fall in love with a man, you shouldn’t be withholding of that love at all. Let your man know that he is always loved even when he doesn’t need to hear it from you.
2. They set their expectations too high.
Learn to always manage your expectations well in the relationship. For one, you are only setting yourself up for disappointment by setting your expectations unreasonably high. And second, you are going to make your man feel totally worthless if he always fails to live up to your expectations.
3. They aren’t careful with their choice of words.
Words matter. Never allow yourself to think otherwise. Be very careful with the words you use with your man. If you keep on saying mean and hurtful things to him, then he will take those words to be a manifestation of how you really feel about him.
4. They don’t find pleasure in the little things.
Always show appreciation for your man’s gestures no matter how small or simple they may be. If you are only ever thankful for those grand gestures, then he is going to feel pressured to always have to please you in such a manner.
5. They act disrespectful to their men.
Respect should be a given. You can’t afford to make a marriage work if you don’t treat your man with respect. You always have to make sure that your man never feels disrespected at all by you. Otherwise, it drives an emotional wedge between the both of you.
6. They discourage their men from pursuing their dreams.
Allow him to be his own man. He has his own dreams. He has his personal ambitions that he wants to pursue. You should give him the encouragement to do so. If you are doing the opposite, then you are essentially turning yourself into an additional hurdle for him to jump over.
7. They never stop nagging.
Nagging is the worst. Stop all the unnecessary nagging. No one ever wins from that kind of environment that is filled with senseless noise and negativity.
8. They belittle their men all the time.
Never demean your men especially in public. He may have lots of insecurities and vulnerabilities, but you shouldn’t be adding to them. You shouldn’t be making him feel any less than he actually is. You should be supportive and caring at all times.
9. They act careless with their money.
Be careful with your finances. You can’t afford to be irresponsible in the handling of your money. Lots of marriage woes arise because of financial difficulties. You don’t want your marriage to end as a result of your reckless spending.
10. They act selfish.
Remember that there are two of you in this relationship. You can’t just always be thinking about yourself. You can’t just always be thinking about your own needs in the relationship. You have to always keep your man in mind as well. You have to understand that this is essential when you want to share your life with another person.
11. They never make their men feel appreciated.
Always show your appreciation for her man. Let him know of his worth in this world. Let him know just how important he is in your life. Validate everything that he does for you and call him out on his shortcomings too. Let him know that you genuinely care about him and that you always think of how thankful you are to have him.
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