Just because you both spend lots of time with one another doesn’t necessarily translate into a deep and heavy interest.
You have to be mature enough to understand that if you want to protect yourself from getting hurt as you navigate the seas of love and romance. There are plenty of men who are only partially in a relationship, and you have to understand that that could be the case in your relationship as well. They act like they’re interested in you, but they could still be keeping their options open. They aren’t as invested and as passionate about the relationship as you are and that imbalance could spell potential heartache and disappointment for you.
It’s important for you to be aware when you’re stuck in this kind of relationship so that you don’t end up making a fool of yourself. You don’t want to be investing too much of yourself in someone who wouldn’t do the same for you. You would be a fool to give so much of what you have to a person who isn’t willing to meet you halfway. And that’s why you need to develop a certain sense of self-awareness in the relationship so as to prevent yourself from getting heartbroken.
But what are the things that you should be looking out for exactly? Well, here are a few signs that you could be keeping an eye on. Yes, it’s important to give yourself to love but it’s also important to keep yourself guarded. It would be irresponsible and reckless for you to go all-in with a love that didn’t even have a shot to begin with. You don’t want to have this one unfortunate experience tainting your entire perspective on love just because you were reckless.
So here are some signs that your man just isn’t as interested in you as you might think:
1. He doesn’t really respond to your text messages promptly or appropriately.
He doesn’t care about your time or state of mind. He would let you wallow in anxiety because he doesn’t care much about how you feel.
2. He doesn’t find it important to plan your dates.
He doesn’t really value the time that you spend together. If you’re there, then he’s fine with it. But if you’re not there, then he’s fine with that too. You feel like if you don’t make an effort to plan your dates, then you would practically never spend time with one another at all.
3. He makes a habit out of canceling on you at the last minute.
Commitment means nothing to him when it comes to you. To him, you are merely an option. To him, you aren’t someone he has to take seriously.
4. He doesn’t really make an effort to get to know you better.
He doesn’t really want to get to know you because he doesn’t care much about you. He doesn’t concern himself much about your goals and dreams. He doesn’t ask you about your passions. He just sees you as an object with no depth.
5. He doesn’t make you feel like he pays attention to you when you’re talking.
He doesn’t value communication and it shows in the way that he refuses to listen to you when you talk. He never pays any mind to what you say or how you feel. He’s only in it for himself and you’re just like a distraction to him.
6. He doesn’t make you feel like he gives a damn about what you think of him.
If a man were truly in love with you, he would always make it a point to make sure that your opinion of him is a good one. He wouldn’t act nonchalant or disinterested in your thoughts about his place in your life. He would always want to impress you as much as possible because he considers your opinion of him to be of utmost importance.
7. He always acts selfish in the relationship.
He doesn’t care about your own personal well-being. He isn’t concerned about your expectations and feelings. He is just only ever acting to please himself. He is a self-serving individual who occasionally uses you to bump up his own happiness levels regardless of how you feel about it.
8. He willingly checks out (and even flirts) with other girls in your presence.
He doesn’t care much about how you would feel about him keeping his options open because you’re just expendable to him.
9. He doesn’t care about whether you’re dealing with problems or not.
He won’t try to help fix whatever problems you have in your life. He won’t help you deal with your issues. He would willingly leave you out to dry when given the chance.
10. He isn’t invested in getting your friends and family to like him.
He doesn’t really care about integrating himself into your life and so he doesn’t really care much about getting your friends and family to like him no matter how important it might be to you for him to do.
11. He refuses to give you the kind of emotional security that you need.
You are never really sure about just what role you play in his life. You aren’t sure about your place in the relationship. He never gives you the validation or security that you need to feel confident about his love for you and it’s probably because he doesn’t love you at all.
Talk to me
Have you been used like this? Share your bad experiences with me in the comments below!