11 Things You Wish He Knew About Intimacy
There are too many factors that go into whether a relationship is going to be successful or not. One important element in any happy relationship is shared intimacy between the two people involved. It is the intimacy that brings two people together in a relationship.
Without intimacy, it can be difficult for couples to establish an emotional and physical connection. For a lot of cases, intimacy is the line that separates the closest of friends and the best of lovers. So there’s really no denying how important it is for couples to be intimate with one another.
The trouble is when people don’t really understand what it means to be intimate with each other. Sometimes, they have very skewed and distorted ideas of what intimacy really is. That’s where communication should come in. If you feel like your man needs a better understanding of what intimacy in a relationship feels like, then you should talk to him about it. Or better yet, just show him this article and have him read through it.
In the end, the more you understand about how to be intimate with each other, the better it will be for your relationship. Boys, it’s time to read and learn.
1. Intimacy isn’t something you can just flip like a switch.
It takes a whole lot of time and patience for intimacy to reach its full potential. It’s not something that you can have on demand. It’s not something that you can just conjure out of nothing. That’s why you shouldn’t expect your woman to be ready to be intimate with you whenever you please.
2. Intimacy means you also have to be generous.
Intimacy shouldn’t always have to be just about you. Intimacy is best practiced when it is shared. You can’t just always be thinking about yourself when you’re being intimate with your partner. You have to understand that love is a two-way street and that you have to be willing to give just as much as you receive.
3. Intimacy doesn’t always have to mean sex.
Intimacy doesn’t always have to mean a fun night in the bedroom for the both of you. You can also be intimate with each other in different ways. You don’t always have to be engaging in sexual acts for you to be fulfilling your intimacy.
4. Intimacy means we are able to communicate with each other openly.
Communication is a very important aspect of maintaining intimacy in a relationship. When you openly communicate with your partner, you are giving her a safe space to express herself. You are granting her a fortress and a sanctuary for her emotions that you actually have access to.
5. Real intimacy can take time.
Real intimacy can never be rushed. Like fine wine, it gets better over time. Intimacy is not something that you can just spark into fruition. You need to always practice maximum patience when you’re trying t build intimacy with a person over time.
6. Intimacy doesn’t have to mean trashy.
Just because you saw that pornographic video doesn’t mean you have to try everything out with your girl right away. You have to ask her if she’s open to experimenting in bed with you. Sometimes, your girl doesn’t want to be adventurous and in the end, she might just feel uncomfortable and awkward about it.
7. Intimacy means being taken care of.
Intimacy is when you are there for her whenever she’s having a rough day. Intimacy is when you cook her some hot soup whenever she’s sick. Intimacy is when you hold her hand and give her a shoulder to cry on when life is getting a little too tough for her. Intimacy is when you are ready to give her a hug whenever she needs it.
8. Intimacy is complete honesty.
True intimacy between couples is when there is a vulnerability that is there. You both have to allow yourselves to be vulnerable to one another. You have to open yourselves up to each other. You can’t be truly intimate with one another if you just choose to keep your feelings and emotions to yourselves. You have to be completely honest about your feelings if you really want to remain intimate.
9. Physical intimacy can still be wholesome.
You can both still be wholesome and be intimate at the same time. Intimacy doesn’t always have to be rated PG. You can keep things simple with innocent kisses on the cheek. You can hold hands while walking. You can give each other little hugs. These are seemingly simple gestures but they carry much emotional weight.
10. Intimacy is having an emotional connection that is just as strong as a physical one.
Connect with each other on an emotional level with your words and your feelings. Don’t just rely on your physical sexual prowess to be intimate with one another.
11. Intimacy is being able to keep things spontaneous and familiar at the same time.
You both can’t afford to stay in ruts throughout the length of your relationship. True intimacy is established when you are both scared and excited at the thought of trying new things with each other; and yet, you are also feeling safe and comfortable as long as you’re together.
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