Keep him interested.
It’s one thing to be able to grab his attention and make yourself stand out from the crowd. But it’s another thing entirely to continue to be able to keep his attention and set yourself apart from the rest. You’ve done all the tricks to just catch his eye. You wore your most striking clothes and you got your hair done. He’s interested in you, and you know it. But now you are tasked with having to keep him interested in you, and that’s a lot harder than you would typically think. You have become deeply invested in him and he’s somewhat invested in you as well. But you have to do a little more just to push him to invest himself in you entirely. But what’s left for you to do? How do you move on from here? What other efforts do you have to undertake?
This is a crucial point of your potential relationship. This is where you have to decide if you’re just looking for something casual with this person; or you really think that he has what it takes to establish something special with you. It wasn’t all too difficult to get him interested in you, but it’s going to be an infinitely bigger challenge to get him fully invested in you. And if you’re willing to take on that challenge, then there are some things that you need to do. Flirting and dating is only going to play a little part of actually being able to establish a deep connection with one another.
Getting his attention was a good first step, but you have to have confidence in your second, third, fourth, and fifth steps onward. Keep a few of these tricks up your sleeves to make sure that he stays interested long enough for you to win him over entirely.
1. KISS Keep things simple, stupid.
There’s no need to be extra at all. Yes, you have to give extra effort, but that doesn’t mean that you have to take an unnatural and inorganic route to achieve things.
2. Make him feel valued and important.
Remember that a man is going to be more egotistical than a woman. If you want to be able to keep him in your life, you’re going to have to stroke his ego a little bit. You’re going to make him feel like you need him to be with you even though you really don’t. But also be careful to not overdo it; a man won’t want to be with an overly needy woman.
3. Don’t rush or pressure him into anything.
Let your relationship progress through its natural stages in a timely manner. There’s no need to fast-forward to getting serious right away. Respect his pace and allow him to open up to you when he’s comfortable.
4. Be patient when communicating with one another.
Understand that he isn’t going to want to open himself up entirely to you right away. He is going to want to close himself off for a bit before he allows himself to be vulnerable with you. Just be patient and understanding whenever you converse with him.
5. Make an effort to get to know the important people in his life.
His friends and his family are important to him. He is always going to value their thoughts and opinions even concerning his love life. So if you want to win him over, you are going to have to win over the people in his life too.
6. Don’t make your life all about him.
While it’s good to make him feel important in your life, you shouldn’t make him feel like he’s the only aspect of your life. This gives off the vibe that you will be too needy and dependent on him. Make sure that you still live your own life healthily.
7. Give him some intellectual and mental stimulation.
Don’t bore him to death by being basic. Give him some intellectual stimulation just to let him know that you’re a force to be reckoned with.
8. Surprise him every once in a while.
Keep things fresh and interesting in the relationship by surprising him. Don’t reveal all of your cards all at once. It’s important to keep some things about yourself a secret and you gradually open up to him as you go.
9. Develop a real interest in him and the things that he loves.
Ask him questions about his life. Develop an interest for the things he’s passionate about. Show him you’re serious about integrating yourself into his life.
10. Don’t be fake when you’re around him.
He will always be able to tell when you’re being fake or when you’re just patronizing him. Just be real and allow him to fall in love with the real you. That way, you won’t have to put up with any charades once you’re together.
11. Make an effort to look good for him.
Physical attraction got him interested in you in the first place and it’s also key to keeping him interested. Don’t underestimate the value of being physically attractive.
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