When you decide to marry someone, that’s really a big deal. It’s a serious commitment that you need to really sure about before you decide to actually make it. It’s commonly said that you need to be marrying your best friend; someone who you’re not just romantically involved with, but someone who you can really rely on to be there for you no matter how difficult things get. You need a real partner who is going to help you get through the toughest challenges that life might throw your way. And that’s always the ideal that we strive for when we decide to get married.
However, the fact of the matter is that marriages end. Relationships end. We don’t always end up marrying the people we’re meant to be with. That’s why there are so many marriages that still end in divorces, separations, or annulments. And it’s unfortunate whenever that happens. We are so ready to commit to a specific person for the rest of our lives. And still, things don’t turn out the way that we expect them to. And we are forced to detach ourselves from the dreams that we have formed for ourselves and our significant other.
There are a multitude of possible reasons as to why a marriage might end. For one, two people rush into a marriage without knowing that they’re incompatible after all. And sometimes, there are just some people who make for great boyfriends, but don’t make great husbands. These are the men who just aren’t ready for that life. They aren’t marriage-material. Here are some signs that your guy might not be ready for marriage yet.
1. He still lies to you often.
He doesn’t understand the importance of being honest and open in a relationship. You can’t afford to be marrying a guy you aren’t able to trust or rely on for the truth. You should both always be keeping things real with one another.
2. He is very critical and judgmental of you.
He never makes you feel like he accepts you for who you are. He makes you feel bad about who you are and he is constantly trying to change you.
3. He can’t stay loyal to you.
Loyalty. Of course, you are going to need loyalty to make a marriage work. A marriage is no joke – and when third-party drama is involved, it’s going to really seal he doomed fate of your romance.
4. He doesn’t have a social life beyond his relationship.
He really relies on you for social fulfilment – which is bad. He is placing too much pressure on you and your relationship to give him his fill of social interaction. That is going to limit his perspective and worldview substantially.
5. He is incredibly short-tempered.
In order to make a lifelong marriage work, you need a guy who has great deals of patience and understanding. You can’t be with a man who is just going to blow up every single time wrong happens.
6. He can’t take care of himself.
If he can’t take care of himself, how will you expect him to be able to take care of you? It takes two independent and mature individuals to make a relationship work. If even at least one of you is incapable of being independent, then the relationship is bound to fail.
7. He isn’t good with kids.
This is especially important if you’re the type of girl who plans on eventually having kids and a family of you own in the future. And if you think that he still hasn’t matured enough to be good with children, then that’s definitely a bad sign for you.
8. He acts jealous and possessive with you.
He doesn’t really respect you enough to see you as a human being who is entitled to make your own decisions and choices in life. He sees you as an object that he gets to own and control at his will.
9. He doesn’t have any real goals or direction in life.
A man with no real direction in life is a guy you will not want to marry. You need to be able to plan for the future if you want to find success for yourself. And if he refuses to plan for his own future, he isn’t going to want to plan for your relationship either.
10. He refuses to make compromises for the relationship.
Compromises are important in a marriage. You have to understand that when you choose to spend your lives with one another, you aren’t always going to get what you want. You have to meet each other halfway, and that’s why you need to make compromises.
11. He doesn’t honor his commitments and promises.
His word isn’t really something that you can rely on. He may say a lot of things, but he doesn’t really do much to back up what he says.
12. He is emotionally immature.
He’s not really the kind of guy who is able to process his feelings and emotions in a mature manner. He is always looking to avoid conflict. He always avoids deep and difficult conversations. He runs away from his problems.
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