12 Probable Reasons Why You’re Terrible At Relationships According To Experts
Focus on yourself for a while.
1. You act overly impulsive.
Remember that when you get into a relationship with someone, you are essentially sharing your life with this person. And that’s why you can’t always just be acting impulsively. When you have an important decision to make (especially one that concerns your relationship), you need to loop your partner into the decision-making process as well.
2. You fake your intimacy and affection.
Whenever you fake your intimacy and your affection for your partner, they can tell. Always remember that you can’t be dishonest with your feelings. You always have to be able to mean what you say. You always have to practice genuine sincerity with your words of affection in order for them to be effective.
3. You don’t know how to argue effectively.
You always resort to personal attacks whenever you get into an argument with your partner. That’s the wrong approach to take whenever you fight. Of course, just because you love one another doesn’t mean that you automatically agree on everything. But you have to be able to manage your conflict effectively in a way that doesn’t threaten your romance.
4. You refuse to make compromises.
A huge bulk of making a relationship work lies in being able to make compromises. You must be able to be lenient. You have to be able to cater to the needs of your partner as well. It can’t be all just about yourself. You have to make way for your partner and that means that your own personal desires may have to take a backseat from time to time.
5. You throw a fit whenever you don’t get your way.
If you don’t have the kind of maturity to respond to times of adversity in a healthy manner, then you’re probably not mature enough to be in a relationship just yet. You have to understand that the world is kind and unforgiving. It doesn’t owe you anything and things aren’t always going to go your way. That’s why you have no reason to be acting like a spoiled brat when you don’t get what you want in the relationship.
6. You don’t communicate your needs effectively.
Your partner is not a mind-reader. They can’t possibly know everything that runs through that little head of yours unless you tell them. You have to be able to communicate your personal needs and expectations to your partner if you want them to treat you better. You can’t expect them to automatically know how you want to be treated if you don’t express yourself.
7. You wrongly assume that you are entitled in the relationship.
Just because you are in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you get to take ownership of how they should be living their life. You don’t get to dictate how your partner conducts themselves at all times just because you’re in a relationship. You still have to respect their boundaries and their individuality.
8. You keep getting into relationships with the same kind of person.
Einstein once said that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. If you keep on getting into failed relationships, it’s probably because you keep attracting the wrong kinds of people every single time. Try mixing things up and step outside of your typical dating comfort zone and maybe then, you will find favorable results.
9. You bring drama with you wherever you go.
Nobody likes someone who is all about drama. Drama can only bring unnecessary stress to a relationship. So you really have to make sure that you aren’t the type of person who brings drama with you wherever you go. Not a lot of people are going to be willing to put up with pointless drama and they wouldn’t hesitate to drop you like a hot potato.
10. You don’t value anyone’s time but your own.
You have to remember that time is precious and you can’t afford to waste it. It’s the same when you’re dealing with other people as well. You can’t expect people to always be willing to wait on you just because they love you. You have to be able to respect and value their time as well if you want to be a good partner as well.
11. You don’t know how to plan for the future.
You just can’t always be living in the moment and taking things as they come. Remember that if you want to be in a long-term relationship with someone, you have to be able to understand the value of planning and preparation. Failing to plan is also essentially planning to fail. If you want a future with your partner, then start planning for it properly.
12. You get complacent in the relationship.
And lastly, you can’t afford to ever get complacent in a relationship. Just because things get stable in your romance doesn’t mean that you get the right to be complacent. Relationships are a grind and you have to constantly be working on them every single day if you want them to last.
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