1. What made you attracted to me in the first place?

It’s always nice to go back to the roots of your attraction for one another. Remind yourselves of why you were drawn to one another in the first place. Go back to the basic emotional foundations of your relationship; the very feelings that brought the two of you together at the start of your journey.

2. What’s your favorite memory in our relationship?

Remind yourselves of just how great of a time you can have whenever the two of you are together. Talk about just how easy it is for the two of you to make memories; just how splendid it is whenever the two of you are spending time with one another. It’s nice to reminisce every once in a while just so you remind yourselves of how great you are as a couple.

3. When did you know that I was the one you were meant to be with?

Again, this question is a great way to remind your partner of why they committed to you in the first place. It’s a great way of getting them to remember why they are in a long-term relationship with you. And also, it’s going to help bring you closer to one another.

4. What else can we do to spice things up in the bedroom?

There is no denying that sex is the pinnacle of physical intimacy in any kind of relationship. And if you are constantly looking for ways to improve your sex life, then you are also working on the intimacy between the two of you. Sex has to be dynamic and progressive if it’s going to be effective. You always need to be growing as a couple as you continue to explore each other’s bodies; each other’s likes and dislikes.

5. When was the last time that I made you really happy?

This is a nice question to ask for two reasons: for one, you are essentially reminding your partner of the many times that you have made them happy. And that in itself is going to bring them closer to you. And two, their answer is going to give you substantial insight into what makes them tick. You’re going to gain a better understanding of what happiness means to your partner.

6. What are your biggest goals and dreams in life?

Open up about your goals and dreams. Make sure that the two of you are doing everything in your power to not be in each other’s way; to not drag one another down. Yes, your relationship can serve as a hurdle; but it shouldn’t be a complete roadblock. Both of you should still be striving towards your passions and dreams.

7. How do you think I would describe you?

This is a nice way to see how your partner sees you; and it’s also a great way for them to look at themselves. Remember that self-awareness is integral in any kind of relationship. You always have to be aware of what kind of image you are portraying to one another. So this is a perfectly intimate question to ask your partner.

8. What would you like me to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed?

You never want to feel lost or helpless when your partner is feeling broken or vulnerable. We all need help in different ways. Ask your partner how you can help them when they’re feeling down.

9. What other couples are your relationship goals?

Yes, it’s true when they say that you don’t have to measure your relationship up against other peoples’ relationships. But it’s always nice to look at other relationships just so you can gain better perspective on love. Love can take its shape in various forms. And if you find aspects of love in other people that you would want to incorporate into your own relationship, then that’s good.

10. What is something I would do that would make you want to break up with me?

The deal-breaker. It might be uncomfortable to talk about. But it’s necessary. And it’s going to give you both a better idea of what goes on in your minds.

11. If you could change one thing about our relationship, what would it be?

This is a good way to gauge where your partner stands in your relationship. Of course, things aren’t perfect. It’s never going to be. And that’s why it’s important to take a hard look at your relationship and assess it for what it really is. There will always be room for improvement; and there are always certain things that you can change.

12. Where do you see our relationship 50 years down the line?

To contrast the very first question at the start of this article, it’s also nice to look towards the future. Yes, it’s nice to occasionally look back at the past and remind yourselves of why you both fell in love in the first place. But it’s also integral that you look towards the future so that the two of you are reminded of why you NEED to stay together; and what you have to do to sustain your love.