It’s always good to put in the effort in a relationship. After all, the best things in life never come easy. And if you want the kind of love that you think you deserve, you’re going to have to make sure that you put in the work to earn it. Love was never designed to be easy after all. So it’s only normal that you have to work for it a little bit.
However, it also gets to a point where you need to make sure that your efforts aren’t being wasted on someone who doesn’t deserve it. Remember that you are only human and that you have your own limitations as well. You shouldn’t really be wasting your time and energy on someone who just isn’t worth what you’re giving.
The moment that you see that you’re with someone who just isn’t worth it, then you need to be able to detach yourself from that narrative. You need to be able to walk away.
You don’t want to be wasting your love on someone who takes you for granted. And how do you know that you’re with someone who just isn’t worth it? Well, here are a few signs that you could keep on the lookout for.
1. She always makes the relationship all about herself.
She is selfish. She never thinks about your needs. She never concerns herself with your feelings. It’s always about her. She only cares that her expectations and needs are being met. She always wants to be the center of attention to the relationship.
2. You share fundamentally different values.
It’s just hard whenever you share fundamentally different values and principles in life. It’s so hard to establish a sense of compatibility between the two of you if you just virtually disagree on fundamental principles. You need to be on reconcilable moral planes if you want your relationship to last.
3. She never makes time for you in the relationship.
Remember that in life, we only ever really make time for the things that are most important to us. And if she’s not making time for you, then it’s because she doesn’t really consider you to be a priority to her. She doesn’t see you as importance.
4. She talks about her ex in conversations with you.
She has no regard for what kind of impact her words may have on you. She is reckless with what she says. She tells you things just to hurt you and make you feel inadequate. She isn’t really interested in taking care of you.