12 Signs You’re Dating A Boy, Not A Man

Are you dating a man or a boy?

There is a substantial difference between dating a mere little boy and a mature man. Needless to say you will definitely want to be dating a man if you are looking for something stable, consistent, and strong. You can’t expect to build a successful long-term relationship with a boy who doesn’t understand what responsibilities that task would entail just yet. You can’t expect to be in a strong relationship with an immature boy who isn’t in touch with his feelings and emotions. You can’t afford to be in a relationship with a boy who has no eye for the future and who doesn’t work towards his goals and dreams.

It would always be best for you to only be dating real men. You should be with men who know how to treat you right. These men know what it takes to make relationships work and they understand that it’s never going to be easy. These are men who would never quit on you just because things are getting a little difficult. 

So how do you know exactly if you’re dating a boy, and not man? Well, there are a few signs that you can check out. 

1. He treats love as if it were a game.

He plays with you. He doesn’t take your relationship seriously. He toys with your feelings and your emotions as if you weren’t a real person. He would manipulate you into doing what he wants without regard for how his actions may make you feeel.

2. He feeds off of your insecurities.

He diminishes your confidence every chance he can get. He wants you to believe that you are helpless and worthless. He wants you to think that you need him in your life in order for you to survive. He would never do or say anything to lift you up or boost your confidence. 

3. He gets distracted by the little things that don’t matter.

He’s like a little boy in a toy store. He’s just running around getting distracted by shiny things. He doesn’t have any real long-term goals. He doesn’t see the bigger picture. He’s just living life on temporary highs with things that don’t really matter. 

4. He only thinks of himself when you’re in bed.

He doesn’t care about whether you’re satisfied or happy. He doesn’t care about giving you orgasms. All he thinks about his himself and his experiences. He really couldn’t care less about whether you reach climax or not. For him, as long as he’s happy, then everything is all good.

5. He doesn’t like to open himself up to you.

He is not much of a communicator. He hasn’t matured enough to know that communication is an important aspect of any relationship. He likes to keep his feelings and opinions to himself whenever he feels like it’s inconvenient for him to open up. 

6. He is always putting you through tests in the relationship.

He really doesn’t trust you enough to know whether your feelings for him are real. He always wants to try and test the limits of your love. He wants to try and push you over the edge to see if you would still come back to him.

7. He tries to control you.

He doesn’t want you to have your own life. He is going to restrict your freedom as much as possible. He always wants to have full control of your life because he doesn’t want you to be doing anything that might inconvenience him. 

8. He is insecure about himself.

He knows that he has a lot of flaws deep down inside but he just refuses to face them head on. He doesn’t want to bring them up to the surface. He wants to suppress all his insecurities as much as possible. That’s why he always feels like he has to overcompensate in other aspects of his life. 

9. He gets threatened whenever you start having success.

He has a very sensitive ego. He doesn’t seem to think that you should be worthy of praise and success if it means that you are going to be better than him. He thinks that your success will also mean his downfall. He doesn’t see what you have as a partnership as all. 

10. He is just coasting through life without any real vision.

He doesn’t have any real long-term goals. He isn’t really working towards anything. He’s not financially responsible and his career is either stagnant or on a decline. There is a bleak future ahead of him and you shouldn’t want to be a part of that. 

11. He avoids difficult conversations with you.

He’s not willing to have the big talks with you because he’s too afraid of being uncomfortable. He doesn’t want to have to talk about difficult things like finances, emotions, feelings, or career plans. These ideas intimidate him because he is still a little immature. 

12. He lies to you.

He still believes that he lives in a world that would let him get away with anything if he tells enough lies. He doesn’t know that one day, all his lies are going to come back and bite him in the butt. 

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