12 Signs You’re Dating a Man, Not a Boy

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He’s your king and you’re his queen.

Let me start this article off by telling you that all women are different and what they expect from a man will be different. Most women want to date men but for some reason, ironically, end up dating boys. It’s not your physical appearance, money or age that makes you a man. I personally wanted a boy in my life not a man; I ended up dating and falling in love with a boy. Dealing with a boy wasn’t easy; when he finally transitioned, I noticed that he turned out to become a man who was way manlier than many men I have known. My bad boy grew up with me, and I am proud of the gentleman he has become. Many of you might not agree with me but for me the criterion which differentiates boys from men is completely different. I don’t believe in the ˜Men will be men’ and ˜Boys will be Boys’ BS.

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Remember, boys grow up to become men, some grow up young and others never will and that’s okay, there are people who love them for who they are. Just try this one thing next time you want to date a guy, try to know him as a friend, you won’t be friend zoned, I am married to my best friend. Don’t be like, ˜ooh that guy is hot, I so want to be his girlfriend’. For all you know, he might turn out to be the biggest jerk you have ever known. Here is my definition of what a man should be like.

  1. He is a good listener

Every relationship has issues, but they cannot be dealt with if he doesn’t listen. A man is willing to listen no matter how harsh the criticism might be, he might not agree with you, but he will listen. Any boy who loves his woman will man up enough to at least hear his girl out. If he is incapable of doing so, your relationship might not go a long way! He might have a million flaws but if he listens and tries to correct his ways to put a smile on your face, you have a man on your hands. 

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  1. He will respect you and others

He will treat your family with compassion and will respect their opinion. I am sorry but if he curses or abuses you or someone else because you guys don’t meet his standards, he is definitely a boy. Boys get intimidated by certain things women do and because they cannot express their feelings of fear, they resort to cursing. He might still be a good lover but he has issues. My bad boy used to curse all the time but he stopped and began to accept people for who they are. I sat him down and we talked about how I felt when he cursed and told him how pathetic he looked when he did. He didn’t even realize how wrong he was until I brought his attention to the topic.

  1. He knows his Goals

A man knows what he wants to do with his life and works hard to achieve his goals. You can see him working and doing his best. You might even be his inspiration to push forward. Boys tend to have a lot on their might but you don’t see them pushing in the direction they should. They are just disoriented and they need time to get their act together!

  1. He gives his 100 percent to you and your relationship

A man might not earn thousands or millions, but he isn’t afraid to spend each and every penny he has on you. He might not be able to buy you an iPad for Christmas but he will get you the best thing he can afford! – Continue reading on next page

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  1. He trusts you with other men

A man will trust you and won’t be insecure about the fact that other men would ever take his place. He could be a 1000 miles away but he knows that no one would love you better and your heart and loyalty lie with him. A business trip, a long distance relationship or an all-nighter with friends wouldn’t bother him. He might miss you but he will always trust you.

  1. He accepts your decisions

Although he will cherish the decisions you both take together, he wouldn’t fuss if you make a decision on your own. He will admire you for stepping up and taking initiative.

  1. He will be proud of your stability and confidence

If you are financially stable and confident, it wouldn’t mess with his ego. He would proudly brag about you and claim you as his ˜sexy, miss independent’. A man will see his success in your success!

  1. He would be way above looks

A man would love if you dress up for him, but nothing will stop him from loving and admiring you for who you are. You might be on your period and feel like an ugly smelly alien, but this will not stop him putting his arms around you and swinging you off your feet. – Continue reading on next page

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  1. He will do his share of the chores

A man would consider chores as an act of bonding and home making, he wouldn’t be afraid to fix you a meal or clean the dishes. Working around the house will not make him feel less of a man.

  1. He will be loyal no matter what

A Victoria secrets model might be sitting in front of him but this will not stop him from loving or admiring you for who you are! He will not want more women in his life to satisfy his selfishness. He will stay by you no matter what.

  1. He will take a stand

He will stay by you no matter what. No matter what comes your way, he will stick by you. He won’t be afraid to stand against the world alone to defend your honour! He will be your biggest support and will make sure that you both get through the blizzard no matter what!

  1. He will look forward to starting a family with you

The idea of marriage or having children wouldn’t scare him away. He might not be ready right away but he would love to discuss the idea with you. The idea of starting a family with you will get him all hyped up and excited. His smile would say it all. A good man is no doubt a blessing.

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What do you guys look for in a man? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!