While you may be under the impression that you have everything in life figured out, you can’t deny that you have some lingering insecurities within you. You are prone to directly damaging the dynamics of your relationship without you even knowing. There are some things that you do which you think are very innocent, but they carry a lot of heavy emotional weight. There are many factors that can contribute to this, but all in all, the truth is that insecurity is still breeding deep within you.
You need not worry about it. All of us carry some kind of insecurity with us. It’s part of being human. What you can do now is to be aware of whenever your insecurities are taking over, and control it the best way you can. Here are some signs to look out for that you’re exhibiting your insecurities in your relationship.
1. You still keep tabs on his ex.
There are few things more insecure than constantly stalking your boyfriend’s ex. If you were really secure about the status of your relationship and the feelings you have for each other, you wouldn’t even be thinking about his ex. You would also be confident that he carries no feelings for his ex anymore.
2. You constantly crave for validation.
You ask him if he loves you constantly. You always ask him if he wants to spend time with you. You always want to force him to reaffirm his love and affection for you because you always find yourself doubting it. You think you are being cute and endearing when you ask him, but the truth is you’re just being insecure.
3. There’s always that lingering feeling that something is wrong.
You always have this feeling that there’s something wrong going on in the relationship. It’s a feeling you can’t shake and it consumes your day and nights. The worst part is that you can’t exactly pinpoint the problem. The truth is that it’s probably nothing, and you’re just letting your insecurities get the best of you.
4. You overdo it when trying to be liked by his friends.
You make too much of an effort to be liked by his friends. Yes, it’s important that you impress his friends and family, but don’t try to overdo it. Know your boundaries and make sure that you always maintain class, grace, and poise when interacting with his friends.– Continue reading on the next page
5. You spend too much time on social media.
Stop stalking your boyfriend’s activity on social media. It’s creepy. You’re letting your insecurities get the better of you once again. It’s quite pathetic to channel your insecurities into such an activity. You never want your boyfriend to find out about what you’re doing because he won’t react to it well at all.
6. You buy him gifts with the expectation that he’ll be more intimate towards you after.
Don’t give gifts with any expectations of reciprocation. You should only be giving your boyfriend gifts because you know it’s going to make him happy. If you’re only doing it because you feel like it’s a way to make him treat you better, then you’re only doing it because you’re insecure.
7. You have major fear of missing out.
You always want to be included in his life. You hate it when he’s out with people who are not you. Why would you invite yourself to a lunch meeting he’s having with his workmates? You should both be okay with having individual lives outside of your relationship as well.
8. You settle for relationships.
Another common sign that you’re very insecure is that you keep settling for relationships. You will cling to any guy who acts the least bit interested in you because it’s your way of appeasing your woes. You have to start setting standards for the kind of guys you want to date. Stop settling for just about anyone.– Continue reading on the next page
You apologize even though you’re not entirely sure that you’ve done something wrong. You are always second-guessing your decisions (and sometimes maybe your entire existence) that you always find yourself saying sorry to the people around you. Don’t let your insecurities rule your life. Stop saying sorry to people for being alive.
10. You become too much of a detective.
It’s like you’re a real-life Sherlock Holmes. You search for clues of infidelity. You doubt your boyfriend’s loyalty and commitment to the relationship and so you take it upon yourself to go sniffing around. While sometimes, your instinct may be right, a lot of times, it may be just your insecurities again making a fool out of you.
11. You always tell yourself that he’s being unfaithful.
You really aren’t confident about the status of your relationship and the feelings that he has for you and so you end up second-guessing the entire union. You always think that he’s out there mingling with better girls and having better affairs than the one that you have.
12. You constantly crave for attention.
You always need someone to validate your existence because you’re very insecure about yourself. You don’t like it when you’re not the center of attention because it makes you feel unimportant and unloved.
Ladies, talk to me
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