If it feels like a prison, it’s not a relationship.
Relationships are tough. You always have to constantly work at them to make them better. No one ever goes into an easy relationship where everything is going to work perfectly. You always have to persevere and remain resilient in your love to make a union work. However, there are times wherein you really just have to throw in the towel. Some relationships are just not meant to be and there’s no point in trying to force it. There’s no shame in walking away from a relationship that isn’t right for you. Here are a few signs that you should just walk away from your relationship.
1. You don’t have a connection with each other.
The whole point of knowing that you can be in a relationship with someone is if you have some sort of chemistry or connection going on. If you are in a chemistry that just feels forced and unnatural, then it’s really okay for you to just call it quits. You can’t force a connection in a place where there is none.
2. You feel like you’re wasting too much energy on it.
Your relationship should be one of the things in life that actually motivate you to get out of bed every morning. It should give you that extra incentive to look at life through the lenses of a happy and energetic person. However, if a relationship is what is draining you of your vitality and energy, then it’s a toxic one and you need to walk away from it.
3. Your partner makes disrespectful comments about you.
No relationship is ever going to work when there is no mutual respect between the two people involved. If you have a partner who is always disrespecting you with hurtful comments and laments, then you should just walk away. You have every right to just leave a person who demeans and belittles you.
4. He cheats on you.
Deal breaker. You should never have to put up with a person who isn’t loyal to you or who doesn’t commit to you. You should never have to endure a relationship wherein you are constantly cheated on. Relationships require lots of commitment in order for them to work. –
5. He is violent towards you.
Violence should never be the answer under any circumstance in life. Run away as fast as you can if you happen to be the victim of physical abuse. Your partner should not be laying his hands on you in a violent manner. No one will think any less of you for walking away from a relationship like that.
6. He manipulates you to bend at as his will.
Your man should respect you enough to never manipulate you. You are a human being who is capable of independent thought and you should never be the subject of manipulation especially in a supposedly loving and caring relationship.
7. You feel like you have outgrown your partner.
You don’t have to be waiting around for your partner. You don’t deserve to have a partner who is just dead weight to you. If you feel like your partner is holding you back from living the life that you want and deserve, then you should walk away. There’s no shame in dropping him just because he can’t grow and mature. It’s okay to be selfish and move on with your life when he just wants to stay where he is.
8. He makes you feel depressed and anxious.
Depression and anxiety are two important mental health issues that should never be taken lightly. If you happen to be in a relationship that is triggering your depression or anxiety, then just walk away. You don’t want to force a relationship that is compromising your mental and emotional stability.
9. There are red flags everywhere.
He has anger management issues. He is a bum. He is a basket case. He is a bomb who is just waiting to explode. You don’t want to be collateral damage when he starts to destroy his own life. Better walk away while it’s still early.
Always learn to trust your gut. Most of the time your instincts are correct. You don’t have to feel the need to explain yourself. If your gut is telling you that something is off, then you really have to trust it. Your gut would never betray you.
11. You’re the only one who is making the effort in the relationship.
Relationships are always a two-way street. You should be receiving just as much as you are giving into it. If you feel like there is an imbalance there with your chemistry, then that’s a perfectly justifiable excuse for you to end the relationship. You deserve to be in a relationship that treats you better.
12. You feel undervalued as a girlfriend.
You shouldn’t settle for a relationship that doesn’t boost you up to where you need to be. You shouldn’t have to endure a relationship that belittles you and demeans your worth. You need to be in a relationship that uplifts your spirit and adds value to your life.
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