A girl, or a lady?
There is a substantial difference between dating a girl and dating a lady. It isn’t just about how old she is. Some girls can grow old without ever really growing up. And some women are just natural ladies even at young ages. Age shouldn’t really matter in this discussion. The distinction between a girl and lady can’t be measured by numbers; the distinction is made with character, personality, philosophy, and demeanor. Emotional maturity is absolutely integral in being able to make a relationship work. You could both be deeply in love with one another; but it takes emotional maturity to be able to take that love and actually turn it into something special and sustainable. Just because you’re in love doesn’t automatically mean that you will be able to make that love work. You both need to be mature about it. And that’s why you need to be dating a lady a opposed to a mere girl.
There are substantial fundamental differences between a lady and a girl. You just have to know what things to look for so that you can make that distinction. So how are you supposed to tell if the person you’re in a relationship is actually a girl or a lady? Well, here are some things to really think about.
1- A girl is always going to want to air her laundry out in public whether dirty or not. But a lady is always going to respect the idea of discretion and intimacy in a relationship. A lady is always going to try to keep the private things where they should be within a relationship.
2- A girl is always going to count on her man to provide for her on a financial and physiological capacity. But a lady only has to rely on herself to get by in life. A real lady understands that she has to earn the things she wants most in the world.
3- A girl is always going to feel insecure and threatened whenever you start interacting with other women. However, a lady is always going to be secure enough about her place in your relationship to actually be okay with you interacting with other women. She respects you enough to allow you to have a life beyond just the two of you.
4- A girl is always going to obsess over how she looks more than how she acts. A lady understands that character is everything and it should always come before one’s physical attributes. She believes it’s more important to the beautiful on the inside.
5- A girl is always going to chase after her men with recklessness and desperation. A lady is always going to focus on herself and she will just wait for the men to line up after her. She isn’t going to desperately pursue anyone just because she’s afraid of being single.
6- A girl is always going to be content with just being someone’s girlfriend. She likes the novelty of being in a relationship; but she isn’t really all that crazy about the relationship itself. A lady knows her worth and she would never settle for just anyone. She wants to be in a real relationship with a reliable partner who she can always trust.
7- A girl is always going to demand for your attention. She will do anything to get people to notice her. A lady won’t always be boisterous, but she is always going to be able to demand your full attention when you’re interacting with one another.
8- A girl is always going to adjust and change who she is in an effort to try and win over a guy. But a lady is always going to focus on putting forth the best version of herself. She will never try to be anyone she’s not comfortable with being.
9- A girl is always going to be fond of talking and gossiping about other people. She thrives off the dramatic narratives that surround the lives of other people. A lady understands that only small minds talk about other people; great minds talk about ideas.
10- A girl is always going to make her relationship the center of her life. She isn’t going to have a life beyond her and her boyfriend. A lady never disregards or undermines her individuality. She still maintains a healthy and active lifestyle as an individual outside of her relationship.
11- A girl is always going to grow attracted to men who are bad for her. She is the kind of girl who thinks that she can change men with her love. A lady understands that she doesn’t have to settle with just anyone for the sake of being in a relationship. If she isn’t ready to fall in love with someone, then she won’t.
12- A girl is always going to obsess over shallow pop culture and basic media. A lady is a girl who reads, studies, and thinks. She is a girl who is cultured and understands that there are layers to everything in this world.
Talk to me
Do you agree? Talk to me in the comments below!