I see red flags, I run.
1. They refuse to see a reality or perspective beyond their own.
What they believe to be true is going to be the only truth for them. They are the kinds of people who would never entertain the thoughts and perspectives of other people. They are selfish and they only genuinely believe their own point of view. They automatically invalidate the perspectives of other people.
2. They willingly manipulate the people around them to do whatever they want.
They have no problems or qualms with using people as tools or objects to get what they want. They would willingly step on the toes of others just to get ahead. They are only ever really thinking of themselves. And just as long as they get what they want, they don’t really care about the welfare of other people.
3. They will lie about anything just to gain an advantage or get out of trouble.
They have no problems with deceiving other people. They are so disrespectful to the point that they don’t think that anyone around them is deserving of the truth. They willingly lie just to get themselves out of a difficult bind. Often, they will throw innocent people under a bus if it meant saving themselves.
4. They never apologize or recognize any wrongdoing they might have committed.
They always see themselves as perfect beings. They don’t think that they are capable of doing any wrong in the world. They always think that they are special people who are above apologies. They see that everything that they do is right. Or even when they know they’re wrong, their pride doesn’t allow them to apologize for it.
5. They conceal the truth and their motivations when it’s convenient.
Not only are they fond of lying, but they are also fond of concealing the truth. They will say one thing even when their heart feels something else. They know that they have the upper hand whenever they don’t show all of their cards.
6. They never respect anyone’s time other than their own.
They willingly make other people wait but they never wait for other people. When it comes to time, they are always so selfish. They always want everyone else to adjust to their own personal schedules. They think that their time matters more than those of others. They see themselves as superior beings who get monopolies on how time should be spent.
7. They always require the attention of the people around them.
They are needy and they need constantly validation from others. They are insecure and they need other people to give them attention in order for them to feel important and valuable in this world.
8. They act irresponsibly on a consistent basis.
They do or say whatever they want without thinking about the repercussions. They do whatever they want without thinking about how their actions might harm the people around them. They say whatever they want without thinking about how their words might scar those who hear them. They just go about life irresponsibly with a care in the world.
9. They don’t always act like their true selves.
They are always going to be hiding something. They are always going to be suppressing who they really are. They will never allow themselves to be vulnerable because they don’t want anyone to have that power over them. They are master manipulators and they know that if they don’t show who they really are, they will never be victims of manipulation.
10. They never really make an effort to keep peoples’ trust.
Whenever people place their trust in them, they never make an effort to keep that trust. They are the kinds of people who willingly break promises left and right. They will tell you one thing but they would never be able to back it up with real and concrete actions. Or perhaps they are able to, but they just don’t care enough to actually do anything.
11. They feel entitled to everyone’s kindness and fair treatment.
They see themselves as the center of the universe. And they get upset whenever people criticize them or shame them for something bad that they’re doing. To them, they are entitled to constant praise and admiration. In their eyes, if a person doesn’t like them, then there’s something wrong with that person not with them.
12. They manufacture their own truths out of thin air.
They do whatever they can to make you think that you’re crazy. They will manufacture their own truths and they will make it seem like everyone else is lying.
13. They rarely ever feel guilt or remorse about terrible things that they do.
They don’t really care about how peoples’ feelings other than their own. They just live their lives without really thinking about what kind of impact they can have on the world around them. They do whatever they want and even when they know that they are being selfish, toxic, and destructive, they don’t really care.
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