Don’t be a romance-addict. Learn to have a life outside of your relationship. If you find yourself being guilty of some of the items on this list, then you really need to dial things back a little in your relationship.
There are few things in the world more charming than having two people who share a mutual love for each other. The undeniable chemistry and healthy interaction between two individuals in love can make for such a view. However, there must always be constant balance and moderation between people who are in relationships. Love is a beautiful thing, and a lot of people are susceptible to letting the romantic aspects of their lives consume them entirely. Little do they know that their overindulgence in love can lead to the potential destruction of their relationships, and consequently, their lives as well.
The bad news is that people are just naturally wired to be dependent. It’s all part of our animal instincts to be social beings. What we have to make sure is that we never grow overly dependent on other people. We cannot allow ourselves to determine our self-worth based on our relationship status. Don’t be a romance-addict. Learn to have a life outside of your relationship. If you find yourself being guilty of some of the items on this list, then you really need to dial things back a little in your relationship.
1. You have regular sexual escapades at inappropriate settings.
While having an active sex life can be good for a relationship, it only works to an extent. If you and your partner are always engaging in sexual acts at inappropriate settings, then that’s a sign of relationship addiction.
2. You find yourself virtually incapable of being away from your partner.
You don’t know what to do with yourself, and so your first impulse is to make contact with your partner immediately. It’s as if you are incapacitated whenever your partner isn’t around.
3. You are always going broke for your relationship.
Be more financially responsible. You can’t possibly think that going broke for the sake of your relationship is a good idea. This is not a sustainable method of living. You need to be more intelligent in your approach to life. Don’t get your partner a lavish gift if you know you can’t afford it.
4. Whenever you’re bored, you compulsively turn to your partner for companionship.
You don’t even go to your friends, your siblings, or your parents. It’s always your partner. A lot of people will keep themselves occupied with books, hobbies, movies, or other activities when they’re bored. They don’t immediately turn to their partners.
5. You don’t think you can be happy without being in a relationship.
Your entire state of elation is purely dependent on whether you’re in a relationship or not. You would be absolutely devastated at the thought of not being with your partner, and you think your life would crumble should you ever break up.
6. You are afraid of being alone.
There’s a difference with being alone and experiencing loneliness. It’s normal for people to be afraid of loneliness. But it’s entirely different for people to be afraid of just being alone. We must all be comfortable with solitude to some extent.
7. You feel like you lose a substantial part of yourself when you’re not together.
Your partner is just a small extension of yourself. You shouldn’t feel completely broken just because they’re not around you. Yes, it’s normal for you to miss your partner when you’re not together, but you can’t let that incapacitate you.
8. Your partner’s approval means everything to you.
Everything in your life depends on what your partner’s think. You no longer make decisions entirely on your own. You don’t ask advice from people outside of your partner. Whatever your partner says is law, and that’s not a healthy way to go about a relationship.
9. You get anxiety attacks whenever you think that your partner wants to break up with you.
You’re just doing this to yourself when you let your own personal mental stability be dependent on your partner. You may be living on borderline paranoia by espousing this kind of mentality.
10. You try to gain your partner’s attention by starting senseless fights.
You constantly crave for your partner’s attention and so you resort to cheap ploys just to get him to notice you. You may resort to starting up fake fights just so he will focus his energies on resolving things with you.
11. You have an addict’s characteristics directed towards your partner.
You treat your partner like a drug addict treats cocaine. You get withdrawal symptoms and you can never feel like you can function properly without it.
12. You willingly let him have his way with you just to make him love you more.
If your partner wants to have sex with you even when you’re not in the mood, you give in anyway in an attempt to make him/her love you more. You are willing to lose your sense of dignity just to gain his/her favor.
13. You devote ALL of your time to the relationship, you end up neglecting other aspects of your life.
Your career is in jeopardy. Your relationships with your friends are tarnished. You’ve broken valuable ties with your family. All this is because you spend too much time and energy on a relationship that is slowly destroying your life.
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Have you been in a relationship like this? Let me know in the comments below!
J’étais dans une relation pareille, j’étais gêné par les aptitudes de mon ex, parce qu’elle devenait dépendante de moi, et ça la ruinait totalement qu’elle a commencé à se négligé elle même et la relation, j’ai lutté pendant 2 ans pour qu’elle s’améliore mais, elle deteriorait de plus en plus.😔😔, Alors elle a senti je l’ennuyait alors que j’essayais juste de prendre plus sur elle et qu’elle apprenne à prendre ses propres décisions dans la vie sans mon avale. Elle a rompu avant hier. Ellle a dis que j’étais pas près d’assumer mes responsabilités en tant que futur mari et père de famille. Moj j’ai appris à ne pas etre addicter de ma partenaire. Merci pour cet article 🔥🔥🔥
Yes. Especially #9. I needed to read and hear this. I feel more enlightened now and know I need to focus more on myself.
Good Job Anthony! Lol
I just lost my husband,we were married for 45 years,with him gone my life is shattered, I hardly can do anything, I miss Him so much😢 I’m just lost,l feel very guilty to move on in life,no doubts I’m 64 years old but the loneliness is killing me,after reading your article I’m confused as how am I supposed to move on in life, the article is indeed very good and I will try my best to move on,thank you,
Let go of any lingering guilt or grief and start loving yourself enough to receive love from someone special.
Sorry for your loss. You need to be in contact with family and friends, enjoy some things you like doing. Go for a walk, sign up fir some activities at your senior center to enjoy the company of others while doing something you like. He would want you to enjoy life. You will see him again one day, until then live the life you deserve.
To Lara: I was 63 when my husband died. We had 47 wonderful years together. I too was so so devastated—and it took honestly, about 3 years to really feel functional. It’s been 7 years now on April6. I’m, ok, but still lonely—I’m 68, I don’t really want another man. After 3 1/2 years, I went to B a high school reunion and reunited with an old good friend/ boyfriend. That was very nice. I traveled out of state to be with him quite often—-then Covid hit. I haven’t traveled—so that’s been another thing to add on loneliness. Enough about me—you will be ok. I know it doesn’t feel that way at all. If you have a church you go to—or one you could, they could direct you to a grief group—I found that helped me a lot! There were six of we women and we became quite close. It was very nice! I will add you to my prayer list. Best wishes to you in your grief recovery. If it would help, I can be available to talk—we could figure that out. Take care! Love yourself and deal C with your grief in your way.
Your case is different, if he was still here, your response to his absence would not have been as devastating as it is now! Losing any love one is the total ultimate loss in this lifetime! I too have lost a mate some years ago, But as a believer of my Christian fait, my only source of hope and strength was to become solely dependent upon God and all of His wonderful promises about heaven and the aftermath of this lifetime! And I also got so many supernatural personal experiences that made me believe more in the life after, that death is certainly not the end of love! So I pray that Your heart and strength be restored, healed, and comforted as often as you need!
I have all the symptoms from number one to number eleven. What can I do to be a better partner and gain my freedom
All the answers for me we’re yes, what can I do to help my husband and I bet closer , yet I need a life. Please help..
In a relationship for 2 months and 7days, today gone through this article. Completely dependent upon him and addicted towards him like anything and he is just on off of this relationship, doesn’t want to give any sort of commitment, sometimes he wants to be normal friend or best friend but won’t mind to be physical with me and doesn’t wants to leave me at any cost. Lingering things and contradicting on his own words like anything What will I do? Unable to get rid out of this relationship
I have all the symptoms from number one to number eleven. What can I do to be a better partner and gain my freedom
This is me 100% but I am in a GREAT relationship and have an AMAZING man. But I always dive straight in and I don’t know how to dial it back because I don’t want my boyfriend getting sick of me if I’m glued to his his hip all the time. How do I help myself with that? I just love him so much I feel like I can never get enough.
This is called “codependency” friends! Lol
Well I’m sad to say I’m 3 5 6 8 10 12 13
I have had many bad experiences in the past and the guy I’m with now I feel it’s more 1 sided not 50/50
And every time he starts to argue or bring something up to argue I also tend to get anxiety as he has use the break up card drove away and come back so many times when all I do is give him everything and every part of me. All my love care loyalty trust and just do everything for him and I feel I don’t get much back.
I identify a lot of things with my actual relationship
I’m talking to someone on phone texts FaceTime from time to time we are on everyday sometimes all day just texting back and forth i sometimes buy him gifts mailing them to him he never bought me anything all he ever say is that we are friends he don’t want a relationship with anyone mean time we met on date app and we talk everyday for the past 6 months I and from Brooklyn he is from Long Island he calls it long distance I don’t know what to do my feelings got fought even when I tried so hard not to involve them he keeps saying we are just friends and will never be more
My wife left me about six years ago. Since then I have become addicted to her and all the bs that comes with it. We see each other everyday and never stopped being intimate. It’s very unhealthy I know that. I’ve never tried to move on. All I want is her. I have talked to other women but she chases them off. She comes and goes and does whatever she wants and uses my feelings to control me. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve lost everything over her but still want her in my life.