It’s not going to work out.
There’s no denying the age-old truth about relationships: There are just some people who are destined to be together despite all odds. And on the other side of the spectrum, there are just some couples who are destined to crash and burn in the long run. There are some relationships that we are in that actually make us better human beings. They motivate us and push us to become the best possible versions of ourselves. In short, they bring out the best in us. And conversely, there are relationships that turn us into toxic people we never dreamed of becoming. A lot of times, people are going to say that they don’t choose who they fall in love with and there is some truth to that.
But Of course, there are some couples that end up together even though on paper, it looks like things would never work out. One example of such a relationship would be that of an empath and a narcissist. Some people will say that opposites attract, but that is rarely ever the case in this kind of situation. A relationship between a narcissist and an empath often leads to pure destruction. Here is a glimpse into the various stages of that kind of relationship:
1.tIt’s highly likely that the empathetic individual is the first one who falls in love in the relationship. The narcissist will love all the attention that the empath is giving and thus, the relationship takes its start.
2.tThe empath will develop so many feelings and emotions for the pseudo relationship and they will end up acting irrationally and out of character. The narcissist is going to propagate a false environment of commitment and loyalty that can lead to the empath falling even further.
3.tThe narcissist will make the empath feel special and wanted even though the truth is, to the eyes of the narcissist, the empath is expendable and is merely filling a void that anyone else could fill.
4.tAs the relationship gets deeper and deeper, the empath will start to grow dependent on the relationship. The empath will feel a sense of total insecurity and vulnerability whenever they are away from their narcissistic partner. This plays to the narcissist’s desires; and they will really manipulate the empath into believing their own helplessness and dependence on the relationship. The narcissist will feed off of the weakness of the empath.
5.tThe narcissist will play the victim role like a fiddle. They will act very scarred and damaged and they will compel the empath into taking care of them even when they don’t need to be taken care of. This is a blatant form of emotional manipulation.
6.tThe empath will start to grow suspicious of the narcissist’s behavior, but instead of confronting them, they will merely act out of a place of love and patience. They will try to understand why the narcissist is acting this way instead of doing anything about it.
7.The empath will falsely believe that the problems in the relationship can be solved with love and compassion. But instead, this kind of behavior only plays into what the narcissist wants. The narcissist will start to feel more important and more powerful the more the empath invests in to the relationships.
8. tOver time, the empath will grow tired and weary. They will decide to open up and air their grievances even though it’s difficult for them to do so. However, the narcissist has done too good a job at making the empath feel invalid to the point that the empath will even start to doubt how they’re feeling and how they’re seeing things in the relationship.
9.tThe narcissist will thrive from all the drama that is occurring in the relationship. They love being the star attraction and the empath will keep on giving in to these desires. Whenever the empath tries to rise up, the narcissist will guilt them into thinking that they’re being victimized by the empath.
10.tThe narcissist will never own up to any faults or responsibilities. They will try to pin everything on the empath. Because in the narcissist’s eyes, they can do no wrong; and if anything goes awry in the relationship, it’s always going to be the empath’s fault. And the empath, believing in their own helplessness, will not hesitate to think that they are the problem in the relationship.
It can be difficult for an empath to escape from this kind of relationship. It takes a great deal of mental strength, emotional fortitude and external support for them to actually be brave enough to say that enough is enough. But the best way to combat this behavior is to develop better self-awareness and vigilance.