Ladies, if you’re having trouble understanding the guys in your life, here’s an essential list of items to help guide you with your struggles.
What’s that old book called again? Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? Let’s not beat around the bush on this one. There is a gender divide between men and women. While gender quality is indeed ideal, there are just some things that both sides fail to understand about the other. A lot of times, things get lost in translation, further lengthening the divide between the two genders. So ladies, if you’re having trouble understanding the guys in your life, here’s an essential list of items to help guide you with your struggles.
Here are 13 things that women should really know about men:
1. Guys Like to Cuddle
Not every man is a sexual animal, ladies. A lot of guys will want a nice cuddle every once in a while too. There’s nothing quite like the warmth of a girl’s body innocently pressed against ours. It’s comforting and it feels like home, and we like it very much.
2. Guys Don’t Read into Things Very Much
A lot of times, girls will get upset when they ask us our opinion on things that matter to them, and guys reply I don’t know. Nothing! You shouldn’t get too upset about that, ladies. Your men aren’t trying to hide anything from you. A lot of times, there really just isn’t anything on their mind at that particular moment. Try suggesting some ideas for them to think about instead of getting upset.
3. Guys Need to Be Told Things Constantly
Guys aren’t mind readers, girls. Please. Stop expecting them to always know how you feel, where you want to eat, what you want to do, and where you want to go without you telling them. Yes, I understand that it can be frustrating that guys don’t pick up hints sometimes, but please don’t fault us on this. Remember the previous item? We don’t read much into things a lot of the time. If you want something, please do let us know, and we’ll try our best to make you happy.
4. Guys Like to be Problem Solvers
We’ve all been there. Maybe you came home from a bad day at work and wanted to rant to your man about that horrible experience you had with your boss. He then tries to give you some advice that you didn’t ask for nor want. I know that can be frustrating on your part, and that you just needed someone to rant to. You didn’t ask to be given advice. Please do understand that it’s perfectly natural for guys to want to solve problems, particularly problems that concern their girls.
5. Guys Hate it When Girls Overdo Playing Hard to Get
Yes, the thrill of the chase is good and all, but frankly, it can get old really quick. Now, I’m not saying that ladies shouldn’t make their men work for them. A true gentleman will work hard to win the heart of a true lady. But please, if you like the guy, don’t play too hard to get. You might end up losing him in the end. Men’s patience can only stretch so far too.
6. Guys Also Crave Attention
Don’t, even for a second, think that guys don’t like it when you give them your attention. Sure, we may try our best to present a rough and rugged exterior, but beneath this manly shell lives a creature of insecurity that also needs to be cared for. So don’t be afraid to show your man some love and attention every now and then. Even when they don’t show it, they’ll always secretly like it.
7. Guys Like to Make You Laugh
Ladies, laugh every once in a while. Even when your man is the corniest guy in the world, they will always try their best to put a smile on your face with a joke or a witty quip. It’ll make guys feel better about your relationship when they know they can make you happy at unexpected moments too.
8. Guys Don’t Respond Well When You Try to Make Them Jealous
This technique is the worst. Stop it. You might end up driving your man away for good. While you may be tempted to test the waters and stretch the limits of your relationship, it just isn’t worth the risk. Guys don’t like it when their girls make deliberate efforts to make them feel jealous.
9. Guys Can be Self-Conscious
Again, guys can be incredibly insecure. Despite the air of confidence that we try to convey when we’re around you, we can also be highly self-conscious. Try shooting a compliment towards your man every so often and beef his ego up once in a while.
10. Guys Like Their Privacy Too
Don’t get offended when your man wants to be alone sometimes. It doesn’t mean he loves you any less. It doesn’t mean he’ll go off looking for someone else. Guys value their alone time also. Just be patient with them when this happens.
11. Guys Cry Too
It’s a new age now and it’s okay for men to cry. Guys can get very emotional too. They’re humans, right? Don’t ever expect that men will always be the hard, strong, rough, and unbreakable figure that they try to present themselves to be. They can break down too every once in a while.
12. Guys Also Like Girly Things
Watching romantic comedies? Going shopping for nice clothes? Getting haircuts? Yup, guys like to do these girly activities too. They especially like it whenever they’re with their favorite girl.
13. Guys Will Like You Even Without Makeup and Fancy Clothes
Ladies, if a man loves you, he loves you for who you are and not just what you look like. He loves you when you’re all dolled up in a pretty dress, and he loves you when you’re barefaced with nothing but pajamas on. Know that they value who you are more than what you show.
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